:( my husband and I have known the other for a year this past may '07, but we got married feb '07. I found numbers in his wallet and found out he had been calling these two women. He works hard and takes care of our family and I know he loves the hell out of me. We have a very good sex life and there are no complaints from either side. But the thing is he has scared me because if he will call these women and promise me he won't anymore, what am I to do? All this time I was living in a fantasy world but his secret has crushed me. Can you please help me?

I'm not sure what you are worried about. Is he is "dating" these women, or otherwise meeting them to "cheat" with?

I think it is unreasonable to think he should never have female friends now that he is married. He should be open about it with you - and in fact, these women should be your friends too!

He is lying to you and breaking his trust, my wife would most likely smash the phone into about 100 pieces and explain to Me I would be next if I keep calling them, and that I would have to sleep sometime if I keep calling them.

Now my advice would be to demand marriage counseling

Do you have permission to go through his wallet? If not, what were you doing?? My husband and I don't even open each other's mail, much less go through each other's wallet, bills, or private papers.

My mother has always said, "You find the dirt you are looking for." At this point in time, I'm more concerned about you, not him.