When I met my boyfriend we were very much in love with each other and there was nothing about him that he did not tell me but I messed up.
I betrayed his trust in me and he withral completely away from me. At times when I tell him he can confide in me and that he can come to me for anything and that I'm here to listen if he needs me.
He tells me that he knows that I'm a good listener but what have I done to the previous ones he entrusted in my care. Now he thinks a lot and it affects all that he does but I feel neglected and bothererd a lot. He has password for all his stuff,even his cellphone. He choose to confide in others than in me but he shows to me that he truly cares and love me.
He wants to be able to trust me fully but he says I'm not helping him to get back to that feelings he had when we met.
Honestly speeking we love each other very dearly but this the aspect keeping us apart.
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How do I make him to trust me again?
How do I make him to confide in me again?
How do I get him fully in a committed relationship with me?
Preciousgift.

Its hard.. I need to understand what did you do to betray his trust? You got to give us more info. He could be totally right.. or be totally over reacting.. trust is a very hard thing to win back

the best advice I can do is right now it seems like both you guys... your relationship does not feel the same.. as it once was... its okay it happens... instead of making it work you guys both need a break a nice break, for a few months... with NC... especially him.. he needs all the space right now its hard... but go to barnes and noble read some books... they will suggest the same thing... my x and I are going through the same thing... I know she loves me and I love her.. but right now the time is not right... all he needs is space not frustration... trying to make it work right now SEEMS the best way to make your relationship go back to normal but it won't... because things are not the same and they won't be the same... unless you guys both have a good break.. w/ NC work on yourself let him work on himself. If you guys both love each other.. in the end you guys will become stronger... take it slow one step at a time

Hello

Its going to take time for him to feel like he can trust you in that way. Give him the space he needs and in time he will slowly start testing the waters with you. If you want more help please let me know what you did so I can help you correct it if possible.

Just remember you're a special lady and because you made a mistake don't kick yourself for it. The past can't be changed so learn from the past and enjoy the future.

Good Luck
Dennis