I need some advice: About two and a half months ago my ex and I broke up. It was nasty because she had gotten back together with her ex boyfriend and was not going to tell me; she wanted to keep me around as a friend. The only reason she told me was because she wanted to hurt me for something I had said to her. It only got worse; I threw the two worst things in her face that I could think of, and she said something horrible to me. I didn't hear from her for about a month, but then I got a text message from her saying that she had seen me in traffic. I responded, but kept it brief. I didn't hear from her for about a month and a half. Then I found some of her things in my room and left them outside her door (I'll admit I was hoping to see her or hear from her). That night she left me a message and I called her back and we talked for a while. The next day she wanted to go to lunch, but I was unable to. I found out that the guy she was with treated her horribly and I know that she is lonely now. So my question is, "Why is she being so nice to me all of a sudden?" Do you think she's using me because she doesn't want to be alone? Do you think she's playing games with me? Do you think she wants to get back together? Does she still have feelings for me? How do I tell? Please give any advice you have.

"Why is she being so nice to me all of a sudden?" She either realizes what she lost and feels bad or she's trying to see if you are still vonerable towards her "Do you think she's using me because she doesn't want to be alone?" That is a very strong a likely conclusion. You might just be the perfect guy to have sympothy for her while she looks else where "Do you think she's playing games with me?" I really can't say if she is playing games with you most girls do play games but she could be that rarity that doesn't "Do you think she wants to get back together?" I think it sounds like she wants to get back together with you but the real question is how long will she actually stay with you if you get back together? "Does she still have feelings for me? How do I tell?" now that you will have to bring up with her. I would just tell her how you feel "I feel like you are trying to get back with me, or if you're not trying to get back with me than you're acting like you still have feeling for me and I'm wondering if you do???"

Well, this is one of the reasons she kept you around as a friend, so that if something wrong happens b/w her and her b/f, u would always be around to have fun with.. and there u are... now figure it out from here...

I think the real question here is "is she mature enough to have a relationship". How does she generally manage her friendships, relationships in her family and her own life and responsibilities? Is she fully committed to school and/or work? Is she respectful with her family? Does she give as much as she takes in her friendships? If she's a taker by nature, has no empathy for other people, is lazy about life goals, etc. you can expect the same behaviors in a relationship with her and can expect her to just bide her time with you until someone else new and interesting comes along. If she's authentic in other areas of her life, there's a chance that she just needed some perspective and this bad relationship provided it. I'd say there's no harm seeing her, but keep it platonic and not too entangled until you can get a more secure picture of where she's at.