We have had our little dog for about a year and both my boyfriend and I spoil him and love him like our child, well recently my boyfriend and I got into a huge fight that lasted 5 or 6 hours, verbal and physical. Ever since that day, my dog seems phycologicly damaged, very insecure, shakes all the time when someone is talking loud, is that possible ? What can I do to help him ?

He gives unconditional love and gets back chaos. Try to keep down the loud noises, even on TV and the radio. Give the dog a lot of affection and special time--each of you alone and both together. I hope time will allow the dog to trust again and erase his psychological upset. If he hasn't improved in, say, a month, consult with the vet. You may need to contact the Dog Whisperer, or someone who does psychological counseling with dogs and their owners.

I am worried for your dog, but also for you. Please get out of a dangerous situation, You'll thank yourself later... your dog will thank you. Trust me, I've been there.

You could try to build up the dog's confidence. Start with obedience training. The key to most behavior problems is approaching things using the dog's natural instincts. Dogs see all the people and dogs in the household as a pack with each having their own rank in the pack and a top dog. Life is much easier if the 2 legged pack members outrank the 4 legged ones. You can learn to play the role of top dog by reading some books or going to a good obedience class. A good obedience class or book is about you being top dog, not about rewarding standard commands with a treat. Start at Raising Your Dog with the Monks of New Skete As you praise the dog for following your commands, it will build its confidence.

Play tug of war with the dog and lose. However at the end of the game, take the rope or toy and put it up, less the dog becomes confused about who is top dog. Ropes from the pets' store quickly turn to hazardous shreds. Ones I made lasted much better. Go to a hardware or home center that sells rope by the foot. Buy 2' of 3/4" poly rope. Melt the ends, and tie knots in it. Get them as tight as possible, put it in a vise and pound it with a hammer. Watch carefully, and be ready to discard when it comes apart.

Finally, make sure it has a den to live in. If you are not using a crate, buy one. The dog may be happier in its den than loose in the house. It relaxes, it feels safe in its den. It rests, the body slows down reducing the need for water and relieving its self. Dogs that have been crated all along do very well. Many of them will rest in their crates even when the door is open. I think the plastic ones give the dog more of a safe, enclosed den feeling. Metal ones can be put in a corner or covered with something the dog can't pull in and chew. Select a crate just big enough for the full grown dog to stretch out in.

A dog that has not been crated since it was little, may take some work.
Start just putting its toys and treats in the crate. Praise it for going
in. Feed it in the crate. This is also an easy way to maintain order at
Feeding time for more than one dog.

The above address the question you asked. The first 2 answers address an area I have much less experience in. Frankly the dog does need a more peaceable home. Dogs are highly tuned into the owners emotions. Yhey are damaged, just as children. If such scenes are common, you must deal with it. I am tempted to transfer or copy this question to Relationships or something. We just went through this recently here, https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dogs/d...yfay+dog+abuse