Hello I did a one night stand the chick got pregnant now Im paying child support. Im remarried and happier than I have ever been have another child and he is my world to me. I want nothing to do with the other child from the one night stand Can I just sign away my rights and keep paying child support? I don't want anything to do with my first babies mama nor the kid she had by me what can I do?:confused:

You can stop being a jerk! That poor child. What did he/she ever do to you? You can keep paying support and you do not need to sign away your rights. Just do nothing. Don't see the child, don't talk to the mom... do them both that favor. What you can do is go to court and give mom sole legal and physical custody. You can then sit back and let the better parent raise your child!

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Originally Posted by lokura010

Hello I did a one night stand the chick got pregnant now Im paying child support. Im remarried and happier than I have ever been have another child and he is my world to me. I want nothing to do with the other child from the one night stand Can I just sign away my rights and keep paying child support? I don't want anything to do with my first babies mama nor the kid she had by me what can I do?:confused:

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You can sign away your rights such as visitation and decision making, but there is no need to do so formally, since you don't have to assert your rights. You are not compelled or required to participate.

You are really being callous, though. It's not the child's fault you didn't use protection, why would you want to punish him/her for your mistake?

If you don't have anything to do with the kid, why bother signing over your rights? There is no way other than the child being adopted by another man the lady marries to get out of the child support.

But please think about the child. My fiancé had a one night stand with his ex long after they broke up and had decided to have nothing to do with her or the little girl, but now I am pregnant and we agree that that little girl is regardless our child's sibling, and we refuse to punish the innocent child for his and his ex's mistake.

I will agree, you will have to bother with them to go to court to sign away your rights, all your rights are , to see the child to have a say in their education. And so on.

If you don't visit, if you don't call, you don't have to give them up, just don't do it. Then of course you just send your monthly check and that is all you have to do, the mom can't force you to visit or see the cihld.

But I wlll say this, your new wife should be ashamed of you for not being responsible and being the father, you are suppose to be. How can she look at you with the other children, or how can you look at them, and not think of the child you are throwing away, And people wonder why I don't believe in children looking for their birth parents, since they end up finding low lifes like this.

Wait a moment people, think about it this way... a woman gets to CHOSE if she wants to have a child or not. She can chose to have an abortion or give the child away or keep the child. What choice does a MAN have? He's forced into fatherhood like it or not. I agree it takes two to make a baby, so why should only ONE of those partners get to make the ultimate decision about parenthood? If she doesn't want you around or want your child support, as long as she's not on any type of government assistance, she has the ability to request a stop to the child support order. Also don't assert your parental rights to visitation or decision making. You can't sever yourself completely from the child you helped create, but you can sever responsibility for this child to a point. I did that for my son's father, who also doesn't have any visitation because he doesn't want it. I believe kids are best raised in a two parent household, but what kind of parent can you be to a child you don't want? I chose to do what was best for my son and allow his father to not be involved at all. I didn't want/need his money, and I sure didn't want someone around my son who would disrespect me in front of him and who was unwilling to be a parent. I couldn't force the father to be a good dad, so I just allowed him to remove himself from my son's life. It's made it that much easier to be sure my son is surrounded by people who love him and WANT to be involved in his life! Where's the wrong in that?

This guy says he is remarried and has kids he actually CHOSE to have. Just because he's admitting no bonding or anything with his firstborn, doesn't mean he's a bad father at all times. I support your decision, man. I commend you in being HONEST instead of trying to do the PC thing here. Talk to the child's mother. If she's unwilling, talk to a family lawyer. Even just a consultation can give you an idea where to go from there. Good luck!