My boyfriend and I have been together over a year, and during that year we've had great sex many many times. But the only problem that I have is that I've never had an orgasm. We've tried different positions, toys, hell I even tried to make myself have one but I just never seem to get there. Somebody please help me figure this out!!

Each woman is unique, the sort of touch, stroke, caress, etc. that drives one woman wild can drive another one crazy – with annoyance!

Ideally you should practice masturbating on your own and then share with your boyfriend what you have learned, it's because learning how to orgasm for some women can take a very long time! You only know the precious spots in your body. If you can bring yourself to orgasm via masturbation then you have already won half the battle. Understand that men don't “give” orgasms to women; they can only help them achieve them. In order to orgasm a woman has to both be in the right frame of mind and receive the right stimulation. If she can masturbate to an orgasm by herself she's figured out both of these actions, and now she just needs to open up and share it all with the boyfriend.

Remember, the brain is the biggest sex organ.

Please note orgasms are like muscles, if you haven't learned how to use them they take awhile to get condition. The rewards will be worth it!

I doubt whether anyone in this group had orgasm the first couple of times around. Be patient!

Learn and exploit yourself. Good luck

Well I'm not sure how old you are but I know that I didn't orgasm with my first sex partner EVER in our 2 1/2 year relationship. And then my next boyfriend that I was with for 11 months was just the same as before. It sucked!! And I thought something was wrong with me or maybe my body didn't know how to orgasm or maybe I would never orgasm whatever the problem was I was pissed/upset/embaresed/frustrated etc.

Well then I got into the relationship that I am in now and it happened it finally happened... it was awesome!! I realized a lot of things looking back like, I thought I was comfortable with those other guys and I wasn't not 100% anyway and, I'm not saying anything mean about your guy but, I know looking back I'm glad I didn't have that with any of my other boyfriends because it's something special that me and my boyfriend now have, it was like my body was saving it for him.

***** Side Note*****
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I have the same problem with my married life. Now after reading this question i have got some satisfaction over my newly married life. Thanks