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  • Jun 13, 2007, 02:45 PM
    acheybreakyheart
    I don't feel sexy or turned on,y is it so?
    I am in a major crisis as I don't feel turned on or feel like "I should have sex"when I see my boy friend.My boyfreidn claims that I am abnormal compared to other girls.

    First of all I feel sex before marriage is a sin may be that is one of the reason... BUT MY BOYFRIEND IS TRUTHFUL and I love him a lot... Also now that I have lost my Virginity I do not regret and I am fine with it.But I do not know why I am not interested in sex... si there any food or tablets to get a little bit sexy? Pleassssssssse help...
  • Jun 13, 2007, 03:00 PM
    NowWhat
    I think "sexy" is a state of mind. Is there any other behavior going on with you and your boyfriend that would make you not want to have sex?
  • Jun 13, 2007, 03:05 PM
    acheybreakyheart
    Nope nuthin like that I guess.. Initially I did not want to have sex and he forced me... But now I am fine (again as its all over and no point in cribbing).Even if not when compared to other girls I would never feel horny or felt like mastrubating when I was in my teens,but have heard my friends doing this. Is there any problem with me... I wonder.

    I used to do a lot of Yoga and meditation when I was young... could this be a reason as I recently read that yoga can control your sexual desires... Is it true?
  • Jun 13, 2007, 04:43 PM
    NowWhat
    When it comes to yoga - I don't know. But, I guess if you think about it - yoga takes a lot of control over your body. You get more in tune with yourself - so that could be true.

    If he forced you the first time - you may not feel secure with him. Even if it is sub-concious. And being compared to other girls isn't helpful either.

    You are the way you are. You may just have a low sex drive. Or you may not have found the right partner.

    There are supplements that you could get at your local vitamin store that is supposed to help the female libido. I've tried those and they did work for me.
  • Jun 13, 2007, 05:26 PM
    michealb
    If feel your boyfriend forced you to have sex, you may never be comfortable enough to enjoy being with him. Even if you don't realize that you feel that way. Of course if every time you have sex you feel that you are committing a sin against your god. I can see also how that would be enough pressure for you not to relax enough to enjoy it also.
    As far things that will increase your sex drive. The only thing medically that I know of is a testosterone cream that your doctor can prescribe. They only prescribe that if your testosterone levels are low, probably not your problem but you might want to have that checked just in case.
  • Jun 14, 2007, 04:44 AM
    smoothy
    Being "turned on" is a state of mind... You still have some sexual repressions based on your belief the sex before marriage is a sin. Find out how to get over that and likely your problem will go away.

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