Ask Me Help Desk - Parenting rights

Hi, I was married for a life time 18 years,with 2 kids. My husband cheated on me and I filed for divorce after he wouldn't leave her. Now the problem. We are still going through the divorce stages and the court ordered visitation for him. I have sole custody, the problem is he is living with this woman and I allow my son (he is 9) to visit his dad for the weekends,now my ex is working on saturdays and wants this woman to care for my son. I will not allow my son to go there unless his dad is there to care for him. Am I wrong for feeling this way. Now keep in mind that I have never met this woman but we have had words also she questions my son all about what goes on in my house. Oh and my daughter who is 15 doesn't even see/talk to her dad. By her chose she can't forgive him for leaving us. And I won't force her to go. What am I to do?Please help me they fight with me every chance they get. Oh one more thing he has not given me any money for the house or the kids in a year.so truly what kind of dad can he be?

The court set a visitation schedule but did not set interim child support payments?

I think it's normal to not want to leave your child in the care of strangers, however because visitation is court ordered you can't simply keep him home. You may need to have your attorney file for a change of visitation schedule, and include a requirement that your son's father not leave him in anyone's care. Also, try to get child support court ordered as well.

I'm not sure what your question is. You are not wrong in resenting the homewrecker, nor are you wrong in allowing your daughter the choice to visit her dad. If he has court ordered visitation he can force YOU to provide access but not the kids to visit. But you don't have to allow them to visit with someone other than him.

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Originally Posted by LadyB

The court set a visitation schedule but did not set interim child support payments?

I think it's normal to not want to leave your child in the care of strangers, however because visitation is court ordered you can't simply keep him home. You may need to have your attorney file for a change of visitation schedule, and include a requirement that your son's father not leave him in anyone's care. Also, try to get child support court ordered as well.

No I don't keep him home I will meet him after he gets off work but apparently not good enough for him. Ex was also ordered to pay child support, but as of yet he has not done so. My attorney is well aware of the problems but its getting expensive filing for all these motions.