OK so I broke up with my boyfriend a couple of weeks ago. We were together for a long time and he usually kept me outa trouble. Well now that I'm single, I've been partying a lot and doing crazy that I usually wouldn't do. I've been drinking and smoking almost everyday and doing pain killers and stuff that just isn't me. I hate this feeling. I'm now really depressed and its like I can't pull myself outa this rut.

But here's my main delema: yesterday, I got really really drunk with my best friend and this guy I like. We ended up having a 3some and now I totally regret it! I kind of really liked him and now I feel like he'll think I'm a cheap slut or something because I barely knew him and had sex with him. Not only that but a 3some. Id never do a thing like that before(its just not me!)

So what's going on? How can I realize what I need to do as an individual and as a responsible young adult? I know what I should do(find some activities to occupy my life, and forget about boys and drugs) but its like I don't know how to get to the point where I can be self sufficient and happy. I'm tired of feeling worthless and bad about myself and my actions. Help?

What should you do? Find out why you feel so empty inside that you need to fill yourself up on a daily basis with booze, drugs and sex. A good counsellor would be a good start. If you can't afford one and you're up to doing the work because you're worth it, try a Dr. Phil book (one that fits your dilemnas) and learn to choose life instead of having it choose you. It's worth the work to come from a place of quiet strength and contentment with your life. You might even wake up happy one day and have it last. Think of it as a great adventure - and who is more fascinating to you than you? Everyday spend a couple of hours on yourself (examining your REAL motives, again, with a helper - book or qualified person) and then let it go and find some simple pleasures to be kind to yourself each day while you take some very hard looks at yourself and who you are now and who you'd like to become.

You should get new friends. You Are Who You Hang With... isn't just a saying it's a fact of life. If you had friends that didn't do those sorts of things you probably wouldn't do it as much. Don't expose yourself to people that will in turn expose you to unhealthy,unsafe,gross things

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Originally Posted by victoria_mitchell

You should get new friends. You Are Who You Hang With....... isn't just a saying it's a fact of life. If you had friends that didn't do those sorts of things you probably wouldn't do it as much. Don't expose yourself to people that will in turn expose you to unhealthy,unsafe,gross things

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I would if I could but it seems like I'm a magnet for people like this. I don't have any friends who don't smoke or drink or w/e. and the ones I do have that live around me and I hangout with often, for the most part are dumb. But its like my best friend gets me into all this . I've been trying to help her with her drinking problem and its gotten to the point where I just take her to partys instead of her drinking and driving etc. I mean I don't know. Its like I'm trying to help her but at the same time I want to have fun. I don't know what to do anymore.

And I kind of want to get back together with my ex, but I'm trying to give it time and explore new things before I make a big decision like that. My ex always kept me away from those people and he always made sure I was sober and safe, etc. and I just really miss being with someone who truly truly cares about me and wants to be with ME and give me the attentino I deserve.

I guess that's why I hangout with these people. They give me attention. I never get anymore because I'm not with my boyfriend. I just want to look good, party, and meet new people. But its so complicated! Being a teen sucks sometimes :(

There are people out there that drink and or smoke and party but they do it in small doses. You're allowing yourself to be sucked into a terrible life style with terrible friends. You say you want attention, all the attention you're going to bring upon yourself is negative attention with the way you'ra acting. Find differnet people. Hell if you lived near me I'd say come kick it at my place sometime.