I married just over three years ago and adopted my husbands son. We are now getting divorced. His son is just as verbally abusive as he is, and wants no contact with me. He has gone from calling me mom to calling me by my first name. I would like to terminate my parental rights my attorney says I can't but I would like to try to terminate my rights and have no further contact with either. Is there any thing that I can do? HELP:mad: :(

When you adopt a child, you take on that child for life. There are no "give-backs" because it's no longer convenient for you.

Your attorney is right. You can't just give up your parental rights. And even if you did... all you're giving up is the right to make any decisions in the child's life. You're still financially obligated to take care of that child.

You are as much that child's parent as your ex-husband is. I suggest you step up and start acting like one.

As has been said in many similar threads, one can relinquish their parental rights, but not their parental responsibilities. It always makes me wonder when people want to relinquish their rights. If you don't want to have anything to do with the child then don't! There doesn't need to be anything formal. Don't visit, don't contact, don't have anything to do with the child. That's all there is to it.

If your lawyer says you can't well... they likely know best and you can't. You try the opinion of other lawyers but you are probably going to hear the same thing.

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Originally Posted by freebird2
I have been the only person I this relationship that has taken any accountablility for anything. Our son is into drugs and everything else but when I try to hold both responsible for their actions I am the one that gets cussed out by the child and the father just lets him.

I HAVE BEEN THE ONLY ON IN THIS FAMILY THAT HAS TAKEN A STAND AND AM GETTING TIRED OF THE ABUSE FROM BOTH. I am not the one running away I'm just tired of the abuse even councelors have told them that it was pretty crappy because they could tell that I had no back up from the soon to be ex, and the child knew it.

This child wants nothing to do with me because I am the on that tries to make him accountable for his actions. Before I forget the child even said he wanted me to give him up to his dad because he and I don't get along and he doesn't like large people. Sorry Sweety I have taken a stand and been the strong one and taken on all of the time and legal matters during the time, his dad and I have been married It his dad that has left me hanging. This kid calls me every name in the book and blames me for his drug use. Sorry I'm tired of it and all of the responsibilities that his dad won't take responsible of. It is his turn



I'm not saying you haven't done anything... I'm saying that legally, adopting a child has the same responsibilities as birthing a child. If you feel that the father is irresponsible, and a danger to the child or the child's emotional/mental/developmental well-being, then you are welcome to sue for custody of the child. You can't just walk away from a kid because your partner and/or the child don't want you around.

What, really, did you expect to hear here, if your lawyer already told you that you couldn't?

Really, when you respond like this, though, it should be in the original thread, where everyone can see your rebuttal. This way, if someone else has more to add, you don't have to say the same thing to each person that responds. I have moved your message here because of that.

So sorry new to the site

I am sorry, but when you adopted the child, you legally are the parent.

You don't have to give up any rights, not to see the child, not to talk to the child, not to decide anything about the child, but you can sign over rights, most likely if you want to. But signing away rights makes no sense, because you can just not do those things anyway.

As for as child support, just like when you adopted, you will have to pay until he gets a new love in his life and they want to adopt the child.
Now that does not mean that the father does not have a right to sue you for child support since he has custody of the child. ( and officially he will have to go to court and get legal custody)

In that they feel some of the same ways that I do about the matter