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  • Jun 12, 2007, 07:38 AM
    darkandsexy01
    My First Time
    Because of moral beliefs, I had waited intil I was married to have sex and I have succeeded in that goal.Last night was my first time trying to have sex and for some odd reason my husband tried to insert his penius into my vagina and it just wouldn't do it. I have given him oral sex to make it easier but it still wouldn't work. I was so embarrassed. What should I do?
  • Jun 12, 2007, 12:24 PM
    Lotz_of_Questions
    Don't be embarrassed, Things happen. Do you think you might have been too dry? Try using a lubricant.

    I'm also guessing, since it was your first time you were too tight down there.

    Good Luck :)
  • Jun 12, 2007, 12:28 PM
    Rockabilly1955mama
    Have you tried lubricants such as K-Y?
    And don't be embarrassed honey, It happens to most all girls.
    (:
  • Jun 20, 2007, 07:07 AM
    stevie123
    For most girls the first time is very difficult or sometimes impossible lubricants are a good idea but if you are too tight this won't loosen only allow less friction - so go to your dr or family planning clinic and they should be able to provide you with some vaginal cones - which are like smooth glass hollow tubes , you place your finger in them and insert them into your vagina - doing this with varyingly incresed sizes allows the penis to enter the vagina at a later stage
    Hope this helped
    X
  • Jun 20, 2007, 07:15 AM
    pulpfiction
    You should work more in the game before the prenetration, kiss and caress more, use every sense, that way you would lubricate easily and in a natural way.
    Good luck and congratulations for the goal you reach!
  • Jun 20, 2007, 09:43 AM
    smoothy
    Unless you have an abnormally thick hymen the first time may need some coaxing till it tears normally. In the case it doesn't see your gynecologist and it's a simple procedure to snip it in their office.
  • Jun 21, 2007, 10:56 AM
    MrsHec4
    I agree with pulpfiction, have your hubby stimulate you more so you'll create more of your own natural lubrication. Try having him perform oral sex on you, it always works really good for me.
  • Jun 21, 2007, 08:01 PM
    ramblinguy
    Let yourself go. Don't be afraid to be naughty. This is new for you. All kinds of problems can show up when you are just beginning to explore each other. Don't get hung up on it. Focus on your enjoyment and love for each other. Talk about it. Communication lowers the learning curve.
  • Jun 22, 2007, 08:54 PM
    laodemon22
    You could either not be wet or your husband is not stiff. I remember I had a problem like that at first. You both should do foreplay a lot more and longer. I think it helps out a lot
  • Jun 22, 2007, 09:17 PM
    Dennis777
    Hello.

    Relax and enjoy what you can do now and when the time is right it will happen. If you try to hard he will have a problem getting hard due to performance anxiety and if you try to hard you will not be relaxed and will be dry and tight.

    You Love each other so enjoy all the other games you can do until your both relaxed and can add intercourse to the list of fun games.

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