Was I just her rebound? What should I do to heal?
My girlfriend broke up with me three weeks ago. Before we got together we had been friends for 3 years. I had been in love with her for 1.5 years and thought about her all the time, but because she was with her ex I didn't tell her how I felt. During this time she used to talk and flirt with me, and showed interest. We got together one month after her breakup with her ex; they had broken up on numerous occasions. When we got together she told me that she was completely over her ex and that she hated him because he was horrible, controlling and insecure. I believed her.
We were very much in love and spent a lot of time together, I thought she was in love with me. We were very close and had loads in common. After 2 months everything was going great, but out of the blue she went cold and told me I was too good for her etc. and broke up with me. I was devastated and upset and I don't know what I did wrong. She went completely no contact. Last week I find out that she had spent her birthday with her ex and my friends showed me pictures of her all over her ex.
She was my first girlfriend and I thought she loved me, but she dumped me for her "horrible, controlling and insecure" ex. I feel so worthless and used. Did I mean anything to her? Was I just a rebound? I just need advice because I have never felt so low in my life.
Emotions are all over the place after break up. How do I control them?
This is my first breakup and heartbreak, so I know that I am going through new feelings. In one day I can experience multiple feelings from joy to depression. Then one moment I feel like forgetting my ex and telling myself I can move on, and then the next moment I feel like forgiving her and wanting her back. I am not a sensitive guy but I find myself crying once or twice a day. I know i need to move on! I have followed advice like having fun, being with friends and family, getting a hobby, doing things I love e.t.c. but I just can't get her out of my head! Its driving me mad because I continuosly beat myself up about it and I know shouldn't.
I just don't know what to do to get her out of my head so I can stop these crazy mood swings and crying.
Any help or advice e.t.c. is appreciated :)
I am obsessed with my ex, help!
Basically the title says it all, I am obsessed with my ex, simple.
The breakup from my ex has really helped me to realise that the love I developed for her wasn't real love, it was infatuation; The worst thing was that infatuation led to obsession.
My obsessive habits: In the past, before we were together, I used to check her Facebook everyday, try to "accidently" bump into her whenever I could, and think about her constantly (and I mean like every hour, every day) etc. Due to this obsession I felt an extreme weight on my shoulders for some reason. It may be because I put so much effort into obsessing over her; loving her unconditionally with nothing in return. I don't know.
When we finally got together, as you can probably imagine I reached the most incredible high. I had finally got the girl of my dreams (litrually) and the weight and burden of obsessing constantly was lifted. During our relationship I had no obsessive tendencies at all.
Anyway after she ended the relationship I became obsessed again, but I knew deep down she was no good. No contact was made after the breakup.
I still have obsessive thoughts and I want them to stop. There are so many great women out there, but my obsession is preventing me from moving on.
I need advice please.