How do I ask my girlfriend to stop talking about her past?
Giving the Readers Digest version, I am late 20s with a 5 year old daughter. I own my own restaurant that is one year old, and spend a lot of time there ensuring that it is run smoothly in the infancy of the business. I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend (early mid 20s) for 6 months. I love her dearly and have so much fun with her.
Our three issues are obviously my daughter, the restaurant and her constantly talking about the past. My daughter and the restaurant I knew we would not always see eye to eye on, and that is acceptable, but the thing that bothers me the most is here constant need to talk (in front of me) about her past.
Whether it is joking with friends, or posting things on Facebook, such as screen shots of conversations with her friends about how she forgot what her prom dress looked like her junior year. Her friend replied " that was the year of name of her ex, you should remember it as being drunk riding around in his truck :)"
I have had several conversations with her about this and how it hurts my feelings to no avail. She continues on a weekly basis bringing it up, or as I feel, throwing it in my face. She recently asked me to move in with her in her newly purchased house and I said we need to give it a few months. My hold up is how and I focus on OUR future when she is constantly reliving the past?
Am I wrong to think this? What should I do?