Ok so our marriage has definitely had its ups and downs already this year and I think this is going to be my breaking point. I don't know if I am being overdramatic, or if it actually makes sense to be upset but am I, and this is what's going on.
Our marriage has been in a particularly rough patch. I am a stay at home mother of three boys ages 7, 3 and 16 months. My husband works and has a good schedule, not too much not too little. I love my husband dearly, but truth be told I pretty much handle everything with the exception of working. When I say everything, I mean everything. Raising the kiddos (one of which has severe adhd), groceries, cleaning, taking care of the property (grass, weeds, etc), we also have a farm so yes I manage all that too with no help, its exhausting. Ive tried talking with him, and it always ends up the same he gets angry and nothing changes... I suck it up over and over, because it could be worse right?
Let me add that I also have bad depression, and I am taking Zoloft to help. Well, last week my husbands friend ( military buddy) is feeling very depressed and possibly suicidal so he and his other friend are going out to visit him for a week to try and help him get the help that he needs. PTSD is a monster! So I was completely OK with him going, he will be gone for a week. Well tonight as he is packing he drops the bomb on me that he volunteered to work out of state because there is a company strike and they are short staffed. It could be anywhere from a few weeks to months and it is on the opposite side of the country!! I was livid!!
I told him that I was not OK with it, and he gets upset with me because he already agreed to go. It's one thing to travel to help a friend in need, but to volunteer to go five states away for an unspecified amount of time and leave you wife and three kids?! No sir! I asked him, are you serious do you honestly think that I would be OK with that? Do you think that is fair to me or your kids?? I am in complete shock, and I feel completely used and this is just it for me. It just makes me wonder is the. Ptsd making him irrational or is he just that unhappy? =(((((