What kind of mother I have?
In childhood, she was concerned about my health and education but not really about social life. It was OK! For her that I was getting along with social outcasts who also had boring life. As long as I was "saint" and religious, going always to church this was making her happy. Any who is agnostic "considers" evil. My sister was social outcast too and my parents neither had rich social life. Even when I was 10, she used to put me down with words (accused) of me having crooked back now being overweight (but I go to gym and try to loss weight and get in shape) . I went to very good but private school and the classes are small and teachers wonderful and statistically almost every graduate get job from school I attend. She of course preferred me to go to community college because of money. However, I got a lot of financial support for first year. I did not even took on campus housing to save more money for next year and to NOT go against my family's wishes as it would be hard. I love my mother but sitting with her and listening to her complaints is depressing. I really try hard but sometimes I feel she sometimes she undermine me, does not value good things I do. Help
!She also always looks at my closet and backpack though I do not like it. I also cannot lock my door to my room because it is inappropriate for her. I feel little bit violated with privacy. I would get on-campus housing to live independently but I won't be able to afford next year. I cannot also afford leave off campus in the city, because what job in the world I could get that would pay me well part-time without even having yet college degree and academic experience. I will be sophomore next year in Computer Science major. What would you do in my situation and what do you think about my mother?
poor social growth in past, today, is my mother too strict?
In childhood, she was concerned about my health and education but not really about social life. It was OK! For her that I was getting along with social outcasts who also had boring life. As long as I was "saint" and religious, going always to church this was making her happy. Any who is agnostic "considers" evil. My sister was social outcast too and my parents neither had rich social life. Even when I was 10, she used to put me down with words (accused) of me having crooked back now being overweight (but I go to gym and try to loss weight and get in shape) . I went to very good but private school and the classes are small and teachers wonderful and statistically almost every graduate get job from school I attend. She of course preferred me to go to community college because of money. However, I got a lot of financial support for first year. I did not even took on campus housing to save more money for next year and to NOT go against my family's wishes as it would be hard. I love my mother but sitting with her and listening to her complaints is depressing. I really try hard but sometimes I feel she sometimes she undermine me, does not value good things I do. Help
!She also always looks at my closet and backpack though I do not like it. I also cannot lock my door to my room because it is inappropriate for her. I feel little bit violated with privacy. I would get on-campus housing to live independently but I won't be able to afford next year. I cannot also afford leave off campus in the city, because what job in the world I could get that would pay me well part-time without even having yet college degree and academic experience. I will be sophomore next year in Computer Science major. What would you do in my situation and what do you think about my mother?