I have a 1 year old (21 months),daughter and I'm being told she needs to have resin based composite crown on 4-5 of her handful of baby teeth so they don't go bad before her permanent teeth come in.
Also have a 7 year old that doesn't need anything like that and she eats candy like a fiend.
Could it be that the dentist is trying to rip me off after seeing that I have a pretty good dental plan? I don't want to subject my baby to this extreme procedure which requires hospitalization, anesthesia etc. Also the out of pocket could come to a few hundred dollars. Research shows sealants may do the trick... thoughts?

Are the baby's problems caused by drinking from a bottle while in bed so she falls asleep at naptime or bedtime?

My older son had what is called "nursing bottle mouth" and at 18 months was hospitalized overnight, then had oral surgery to put in chrome crowns to save the spaces for permanent teeth, and to help him eat and learn to talk. He's had 40 years of tooth problems/fillings/braces.

His younger brother has a perfect dental arch, beautiful teeth, and has had only one cavity ever in his life. (He's 36 now.)

If nothing else, get a second opinion.

Basically from what I've gathered she has an issue with gradual decay from the back of the teeth.
Brushing her teeth is done regularly, but very difficult. Takes 2 of us to her her down.
May be due to 21 months breasfeeding which just ended 2 weeks now, but she would fall asleep with the breast in her mouth. Sleeps in the bed with her mom. Allergic to milk so calcium and other nutrients an issue.
Now beginning to take formula fortified with necessary nutrients.. though not sure how helpful this will be or if it can reverse the progress of deterioration.
Will get a second opinion from an in network dentist.
Thanks.

You should definitely do the research. And why do you think you would have to come out of pocket for a nice chunk of money?

I don't know if sealants will do the trick, it would be nice if they do, but I will say don't sacrifice service to save money. You might also want to compare dental plans, maybe you don't need to come out of pocket at all with the right plan.

Good luck

Definitely get a second opinion. If baby teeth are decayed they definitely should be restored so they can keep the space for the adult teeth to grow and erupt. Some of the teeth she has need to last her until she is up to 12 yrs of age. Below is some information that may help a little.

http://www.aapd.org/media/pressreleases/breastfeeding-99.asp