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  • Mar 2, 2006, 02:07 PM
    cpk2
    I need help with figuring this out
    Hello Everyone,
    Sorry, this may be kind of long, but advise me if you can. I am a college student (senior) and I met a guy 3 years ago as a freshman. (Yes, we had sex... safe sex of course). I don't really remember why we stopped talking 3 years ago, but I recently saw him on the street. (He's from the area where my school is located) He tapped my arm to get my attention and we remembered each other. He remembered my name and how to spell it without me saying anything (It's not a common name). I gave him my number without taking his and he called me this past weekend since he was off from work. He had not had a day off for 12 days and he spent both of his "off days" (this weekend) with me. We talked a little, he hinted that he wanted me as his girl, and he remembered different yet specific things about me back then (including the home city of my prior boyfriend). We had an intimate moment (sex), but after that, I didn't want to keep doing that (I kind of left him hanging unintentionally). So when I left his house Monday morning (it is now Thursday), I told him that he didn't have to walk me back (as he normally does) and I was kind of upset but I didn't let it show much (I just didn't give him a hug or kiss as I left). I don't know why this is on my mind actually. However, the ultimate questions are... Do you think he'll call me again? I was wondering if he was waiting until the weekend when he knows that I don't have any classes? Or what are your general thoughts?
  • Mar 2, 2006, 02:46 PM
    fredg
    Hi,
    My best guess is that he wanted to have sex. He ran into you, and did.
    The only way to find out is just wait, see if he calls you again. And, I'm betting that he will. It may not mean any relationship, except sex.
    If you try "with-holding" sex, you might discover what he really has in mind. I do wish you the best, and good luck.
  • Mar 2, 2006, 03:58 PM
    Fr_Chuck
    Let me see, having sex with an old friend that was not that important to you as your forgot even why you broke up.

    I could do a sermon or two on that alone. But my guess, he was wanting sex, saw an old sex partner and though he would give it a chance.

    If he does not have anyone else to have sex with for now, he most likely will.

    I would say you need to start trying to base some relastoinships on other forms of communication and get to know each other in other ways.
    Saying no actually makes guys want you more, saying yes, takes away any mystery what so ever.
  • Mar 2, 2006, 04:02 PM
    Wildcat21
    Why on earth are yo ugiving up the goods so easily? Do you reall ythink he has ANY respect for you? No.

    No you won't hear from again.

    WHY on earth would you do this? How do you know you don't have STDs?

    A guy you see randomly and don't know that well - haven't seen in 3 years?

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