In love with Husband's best friend
I just recently got married to my high school boyfriend of six years. We have a two year old so together and have never been apart. My husband is the "perfect" man. He is sweet, funning, hardworking, great father and wants everything for me. My husband and I share a close group of best friends whom all are married or long relationships. His best friend just recently split up with my old best friend. My husband asked me to talk to him to help him deal with the separation. Over time we have become really close on the phone.
The other night he expressed to me that he has always had strong feelings for me, but he would never act on them. Since then I can't get him out of my head. I have ALWAYS known there was a connection between us, but never said anything. My marriage is steady but we have our differences. Sometimes I think we are together due to our son. I love my husband, but I am falling in love with his best friend. We talk a lot and I have tried to stop but it is just too hard. I don't have a lot of friends to turn to outside of this group and I need help. I've even considered leaving my husband. I'm young and feel like I can't take the pressure of being a stay at home mom and not having anyone that cares about me around. I feel trapped and at a crossroad in my life. I know a relationship won't work with this guy, but I am longing for attention. I tried to talk to my husband last night (which I think he has an idea), but he just gets so angry. I know if I come clean it will destroy his friendship and everything else. We have up coming vacations with everyone and I don't want it to be awkward. How do I get this is guy out of my head?? I know he is still in love with his ex also.
I love my husband with all my heart; I am just losing sight of being IN love with him. I feel like a horrible, horriable person for this happening!
In love with husband's best friend
About a month ago, I posted a question about my crazy situation. My husband's best friend told me he loved me after he broke up with my "old best friend". They were together for seven years and called it off. I was encouraged by my husband to talk to him because all of us have been very close friends for years. After talking to him night after night, he expressed his feelings for me. Since then, we have been having an affair.
I have completely fallen in love with him. We haven’t had sex, although he came and visited us for the weekend and we fouled around. I feel like myself around him. I am young and got married only six months ago. My husband and I have been together for six years, but we have always been best friends than "In love". I feel absolutely horrible that this has happened... both of us do. Our guilt has really gotten to us and we decided to stop. The problem is, is that I am now in love with him. He is trying to fix things with his ex (my old best friend) and I am left with a husband who is a perfect person and treats me great, but I'm not in love with him anymore. We have a child together and all I have ever wanted for my son is to raise him in a "normal" household. My values are important to me, and I really messed things up. I know I don't want to be with my husband, but I don't want to hurt him any more than I already have. I don't have any family or friends and I have no where to go. I am a stay at home mom and a student.
Our relationship has always been built on trust and no that I have ruined that I am afraid I can't go back unless I tell him the truth. If I tell him, it will hurt everyone involved. All of our friends back home are very close and his family would disown me. What do I do? Do I tell him and try to fix or marriage, or do I keep it from him? Please help! I know it is a really bad situation and I know I have been a horrible person for doing this! I just don't have anyone to turn to. Thank you.
P.S. This guy is also a great person. We have been very close friends for years. We are perfect together. He says he would marry me if he could. This is not just a fling. We really click. Unlike anyone I have ever been with.