Me and my boyfriend will be getting married next year. I will be making everything myself and already made the bridemaids dresses and will be working on mines after I give birth to our son. At first there was a diagreement with his mother regarding the color I choose for the dress, ice blue, but she came around and is open with to the idea.
Now the problem is his ex wife. She is a bitter lady and sometimes goes out her way to get a negative reaction from people. They been divorce since 1999 and she remarried 2 years later and is still married to the guy. She is more upset that we are having a baby then us getting married. She lives in a different state and they do have a 13 year old son.
Once she found out I was pregnant she contacted his entire family to let them know it was unfair for him to have another child and it's unfair to their child. Now their son knows about the baby and is happy to become a big brother and always tells us that he isn't jealous but his mom is. I found out a few weeks ago that she is unable to have kids now and that expain her bitterness.
The problems is we had a date set for our wedding since July and we even called her before setting the date to make sure she didn't have any trips set so his son can come. Today she called to say their son can't make it because she taking him on a cruise. She did this out of spike and now by boyfriend is upset and so am I. I tried and went out my way to be nice to this lady but she don't want to be nice. There is nothing going on between them too so that isn't a problem nor issue.
I just want everything to be civil and don't mind changing the date because it's not written in stone. We want his son there but she don't. In return his son calls and don't understand her behavior. He is smart boy and is on the honor roll. When she finds out he's calling us she takes his cellphone away, that the father pays for, but gives it back to him once she cools out. We both know it's a no win matter with her but hopes she comes around. Now we are planning our wedding around the time he has him. I jusu curious how would others handle this situation with the ex or have anyone ever had to deal with an ex and if so how did you handle it?