17 year old in states custody , 3rd time
My oldest son came home from school a year and a half ago and told both his mother and I he wanted to be in a juvenile detention. Needless to say we both were shocked . Here is a handsome kid dressed in an Attire of about 250 dollars each day. Who just don't want to perform up to his capabilities.
My wife and I, have well educated he and his brothers . I am retired Military, My wife is a professional in the medical field. Who still seeks education.
From that day forward we have had a hard battle on our hands .
Breaking in homes , drugs, threats, and the list is endless. This time he was arrested and sent to yet another state place were he is having the time of his life . While I am writing the cheeks to cover the damages . Only now I don't want him to return to my home and this is causing much problems between my wife and I. I also understand her reasons of motherhood . All I want, is him to grow up and except reality and do something with his life .He is almost 18. And despite our efforts he only continues to fight cops and even the teachers of the GED course he was takeing and was kicked from it .
He was teaching my 6 tear old how to use hard drugs , and he came and told me , My wife and I do not drink or use drugs so he didn't learn this from home . What can I do to see he never steps back into this house ?
Obviously the State thinks I am cruel , only they haven't tried living with him. They think he is smart and well mannered ( we taught him this from the time he was born ) He is a player of the system.
What will it be next time is what I keep trying to point out to my wife . Who caters to his wants and whims.
I say he needs to learn to pay for his mess ups, and learn to achieve , because I know he has been well educated by private schools, church, and anything else I could afford.