How does a girl who cannot orgasm maintain a romantic relationship?
I am 23, I have had nine partners, and only one has managed to make me orgasm. It was my first boyfriend who I spent two years with. It took six months and a vibrator to get me there. Since then I have not had an orgasm. Now I am beginning to question whether I even did?
I am currently in a relationship that up until very recently has been going beautifully. But lately my lack of orgasms has really started to infuriate my boyfriend. Today he actually yelled at me on the street for never mentioning that I'd achieved orgasm before with a vibrator. Then he gave me an ultimatum- either figure it out or we're over. He has been putting a lot of pressure on me these past couple of months to orgasm, and that has only made it more difficult. Almost all I can think about when we have sex is whether he'll be upset with me when it is over. Whether he will pull away from me. He also said today that I am the only woman he has ever slept with that hasn't had an orgasm every time. This I doubt, but it still makes me feel awful and small.
The guy I dated before my current boyfriend also broke up with me because of my inability to achieve orgasm. Does this mean I can count on this in the future? Is it possible for a woman who cannot achieve orgasm to have a love relationship?
Comment on Fr_Chuck's post
1. Up until this month the relationship was going really well and I was very comfortable. 2. I was happy with him, but now I am not sure that I want to stay. 3. I am very attracted to him.
Comment on Fr_Chuck's post
4. I have no issue being alone and prefer it to this situation. That is why I am on the verge of ending it. 3. The relationship progressed to sex after about a month. Oh- and I put no pressure on him whatsoever to get me off. I fully enjoy myself
Comment on Fr_Chuck's post
And it is only when he finishes and I don't that issues arise. I have never made an issue of it.
Comment on joypulv's post
Again- I only said two of the nine had an issue over it, not all nine. The other seven didn't work out for other reasons. It just seems to be a trend lately, which is why I asked.
Comment on redhed35's post
I tried to orgasm with a vibrator last night, but after about five minutes I realized I was still way too upset over the day to feel good. I can't get off when all I think about is how my boyfriend is going to dump me if I don't.
Comment on redhed35's post
Honestly though- I am ready to dump him. Yesterday was just ridiculous.
Comment on joypulv's post
Also- I have a best girlfriend- but I wanted some outside opinions.