Ungrateful and disrespectful 19 year old daughter
Hello,
My daughter is extremely lazy, rude, and disrespectful in our home, and always has been. (although to other adults she has perfect manners) she started college a year ago and failed 3 out of 4 classes. She came home during christmas break and begged her dad and I not to send her back to school, but swore to us that she tried very hard but found her classes were too hard and the teachers were bad. She is a professional at making things up to support her laziness. (we didn't buy it and we were very disappointed at her efforts) after she moved back from college in December, she did a 3 day a week internship in our town and the hours were from 10-4. it was very easy work and many days she was sent home early. She ended that job after 3 months, (a worker at the internship told me she was very lazy while there) so we told her she needed to find another job asap. It took us shutting off her cell phone and 2 1/2 months before my husband finally found her a 2 day a week job hostessing for $17.00 an hour. She has worked maybe 8 days this summer. She smokes weed every single day and we have come to find out she started using cocaine. She promised us she wouldn't do it ever again but failed the first drug test we gave her 6 days after we confronted her. A fight ensued and we kicked her out of the house. She packed her bags and when she left the house after a nasty fight with her dad, she told me she would sell her body and steal to make money to survive. She was back in the house 36 hours later with a heartfelt apology. It was 24 hours after that that she became extremely disrespectful and rude once again. She tells us she wants to be a rap singer and I believe the music she has constantly playing in her ears is influencing her better judgement. She is rude, disrespectful, and angry, and I now think there is a possibility she has a mood disorder. I have no idea what to do with her but I am very scared for her and our family life is out of control. I am also worried she will corrupt her younger brother who is a very good kid but impressionable! Please help with advice.