My Husband is making me crazy!
Hello, Recently my husband and I have been fighting about a problem that has developed. I have accepted a job and am now employed, I have not yet made a connection to my problem and my job, but lately, he is demanding to read my text messages!
We have had in the past week, perhaps 5 fights about that issue. I told him that my cell is my personal business and that I do not demand, nor have I ever read or searched his phone for any reason. I also told him that I trust him so there is no need for me to spy on him.
It seems to me that he thinks that only he will stay true and not cheat in our marriage. I feel that he thinks that 'I' will cheat and that's why he should keep a close eye on me. Personally it is offensive and frustrating because it makes me feel that he thinks he is better able to control himself than I am.
Trying to explain the friendships to him doesn't work either.I don't understand why he insists on reading my messages and emails. I'm not sure if he should be allowed to or not. He even went as far as to call a friend of mine who I chat with on the net and ask him "what relationship do you have with my wife?"
I had a text buddy I met last year who lost his cell phone, at the time my husband didn't like the guy texting me so when he suddenly stopped I was relieved! We chatted about many things, (his girlfriend, Jokes, School, and sometimes sex).
I have never cheated on my husband. My Text Buddy found my number a couple days ago, and started texting again and my husband demanded to read those texts, he said he won't get mad he just wants to be involved a bit so I let him.
And he saw an explicit text from my buddy that I did not yet read and has since been creating fights. I don't know what to do anymore, is talking to a guy on my cell or the net considered cheating?
All I want is to have a couple friends who I can discuss things with and have a little laugh sometimes. So what I would basically like to know is how do I deal with this? He is obviously jealous and this issue is just one amongst many.
He calls me continuously when I go out, he watches any guy who talks to me. From a man's point of view, please explain to me how he justifies this sort of behaviour?