Why does he watch porn but won't have sex with me?
I'm 23 and I live with my boyfriend who is 23 also. We have been together 4 about 7 months now, and pretty much lived together from the very first night we hung out. The first couple of months we were together he couldn't keep his hands off me. He still had he's own place for the first several months we were together but stayed every night with me. The sex was GREAT!
He is a recover addict, and attends AA often. Alcohol was never his problem, it was drugs. We do not have a supportive NA group in our town, so that's why he choose AA instead. About 2 months ago he started drink again after almost a year of being sober, and when he is drunk or drinking we have some of the best sex together. But since he has started drinking again that's the ONLY time we have sex. He is just not interested if he hasn't been drinking. I have found as well that he has been watching more and more porn, when I'm asleep or at work. He still cuddle's me every night, and kisses me every day but if I bring up sex when he's not drunk all I hear is "im tired, i'm not in the mood, I'm sore, not tonight baby". Just no interest... no matter WHAT I do. But always has interest in porn! This hurts me, I don't understand why he would rather watch porn and get himself off than just let me get him off? I would even watch it with him if he wanted... Before any one asks it's just regular porn, not anything weird or freaky, not gay porn or lesbian, just regular 'ol porn.
There are a couple of things that might need to be said also... I have had more partners than him, and when he first found that out became uncomfortable with it immediately. Is this the problem? Why would this just now be causing a problem? I'm a very sexually person and would have him any time any place but the feeling is not being returned. What's the deal?? :mad: Why would he choose porn over me?