My husband and I have been married for about a year and 3 months. We had this whole plan set up for the next few years. He and I are both finishing our undergraduate degrees this coming April, and then he was planning on going to dental school, and joining the navy so that they would pay for it all. It was great because the navy would pay him a stipend every month, and he wouldn't have to do anything in the navy until after he graduated, at which point he would be a dentist for the navy (not a regular soldier in combat or anything).
Just a few months after we got married I told him that I really really really wanted to have a child. But we both new that it was silly to have a baby while we were both in school. We decided to wait to get pregnant until a time that would make it so that the baby wouldn't be born until after I graduated. Well, if you do the math, that's about nine months from NOW. Now there's a very small chance that I could already be pregnant (my cycle is ussually about every 4 and a half to five weeks, and it's been almost six since my last period, but I've taken a couple of pregnancy tests that were negative). Then last night out of no where my husband tells me that he probably missed the deadline to get the navy's support, and that he doesn't feel like he has the GPA, etc. to actually get into dental school and he wants to wait an extra year to go.
I was really upset because it's been torture waiting a year longer than I wanted to have a baby, and now I had to wait another whole year. When I told him how I felt, he just said "We can probably still have a baby now. We can work it out". Maybe I'm just not as hopeful as him, but I don't want to just "work it out". I want to have a plan to go on. So now, I don't know if we should try to have a baby and then just somehow "work it out" or adjust our plan by an entire year! And what are we going to do if I am already pregnant?
My head is just whizzing right now, and I really need to get some direction...