Do I try to get her back? Or give up? Need advice...
I need some advice…
I was with this great girl for like 5 years… we lived together and it was leading towards a life together. Things got rough in a weird period of our lives – lots of arguing and fighting -- so we split for a month to think about things (mutually). Within a month she was with another guy (I think she has issues with being alone) – I was shocked because I didn’t think we were seriously ending things.
I got really depressed and for like a year and a half I couldn’t get over her. I took it all for granted, and when it was gone, I was destroyed inside. I realize how much I really loved her… but it was too late. She was gone. She ended up moving in with that guy within 4 months. I kept contact with her to a bare minimum… I was so sad and had a hard time letting go. I never fully did.
Here I am two years later. I recently started to hang out with her a bit, and I think we both felt old feelings flare up. We actually kissed a few times… My love for her was aroused and I found myself thinking about her more than ever.
But she’s still living with her boyfriend (same guy)! After a while she stopped the kissing because she felt guilty about it I’m sure… But she never talks about him and acts as if he doesn’t even exist. We still hang out and I’m still crazy about her though. I think she realized we were both immature and possibly ended something that was really good….. but now she’s with someone new and I think she’s feeling torn.
Do I try to get her back? Or am I just setting myself up for a big fall again?
I want her back in my life but don’t know how to approach it… I don’t want to come on too hard but …. At the same time I want her to know how I feel. Do I just tell her or will that scare her away?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated—I’m totally confused and anxious-- Thanks!
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I agree, you should let it go until she leaves him (if she does). If she doesn't leave him in 6 months say then you could tell her how you feel as you don't have that much to lose really, as far as the relationship goes.