I fell in love with a marry man I know it was wrong but now I miss him so much I do not see him that much but I am so lonely I am so mix about this I am 57 years old and I am so afraid I was so hurt before I do not know what to do I am so all alone my husband die about 3years ago but our marriage was not good I am so mix up in side why can someone love me what is wrong with me I have two children I can not talk to them about this can not tell my friends about this stupid thing I did what can I do about this

Give it time and if you don't see him you will get over him even faster. Due to you being lonely it makes it easier to fall in love. It's like filling an empty spot in your life. I know that it's hard but in time you will meet other people and eventually move on with your life and perhaps with a new man. Think positive and every thing will work itself out.

Best of luck

Come on no calm down. You are not a teen ager but, you are old enough to know that a married guy is a dead end street, and you know you have to leave him alone. You also know it takes a while to heal, and get your feet back under you, and be able to rebuild, and regroup, and get your head back together. So just do it, and let your family, and friends support you.

You don't have to tell them how you screwed up with the married guy, well maybe you have one very good friend that you trust you can talk to about it, but you can see them enough to enjoy, and love them, and be loved until things settle down, and you can be happy again.

Stop seeing him or convince him to leave his wife for you.. if he doesn't that means he doesn't love you

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Originally Posted by MarMar12

stop seeing him or convince him to leave his wife for you.. if he doesnt that means he doesnt love you

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Did you really just advise someone to break up a marriage??

If someone is married, or in any kind of committed relationship, it means hands off until or unless they are single again.

You can't help who you fall in love with is all I'm saying.. and if he really did love his wife he wouldn't be messing around with someone else.

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Originally Posted by starlight24

i fell in love with a marry man i know it was wrong but now i miss him so much i do not see him that much but i am so lonely i am so mix about this i am 57 years old and i am so afraid i was so hurt before i do not know what to do i am so all alone my husband die about 3years ago but our marriage was not good i am so mix up in side why can someone love me what is wrong with me i have two children i can not talk to them about this can not tell my friends about this stupid thing i did what can i do about this

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Are you working?

Do you put yourself out there tp be able to meet people?

Perhaps you could take a cooking class, or dance, or volunteer some where.

Staying busy and putting your focus on something else will help you.

Not to mention you meeting new people men/women.

I'm really sorry about your Husband passing.

I also understand that you have feelings for another married man, but he IS married, therefore off limits.

Dwelling on him is not healthy. You need to move on.

Good luck.