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  • Sep 20, 2014, 03:28 AM
    hailyRcollons
    Best bridal diaper?
    Where is the best place to buy a bridal diaper? I just started looking and there is way more choices than I could have guessed. It has to be comfortable and must not leak, lol!

    I would really rather buy online! What bridal diaper have you ladies used? Where did you get it ? Did everything work out well with it? Did you end up having a cover for it or did you just use the diaper? I have heard of it both ways.

    Thanks for your help!
  • Sep 20, 2014, 03:30 AM
    J_9
    Oh goodness. Most brides I know are potty trained and don't need diapers.
  • Sep 20, 2014, 03:36 AM
    hailyRcollons
    Lol, thanks
  • Sep 20, 2014, 03:41 AM
    J_9
    Don't you think wearing a diaper on your wedding day is totally humiliating and disgusting?
  • Sep 20, 2014, 04:30 AM
    joypulv
    "A diaper that is used when a wedding dress is too big or complicated to easily use the bathroom."

    Somehow this calls to mind the overbreeding of bulldogs, whose heads are now so big that the pups must be delivered by Cesarean.

    Just warn your bridesmaids that they will be helping you pee. Giving new meaning to the word bridesmaid. Or maybe a very old one, who knows.
  • Sep 20, 2014, 04:38 AM
    hailyRcollons
    Yes and no, it was suggested to me by some friends and the manger of the venue. I wanted to research this before I totally dismiss the idea
  • Sep 20, 2014, 04:45 AM
    DoulaLC
    There are a number do adult "diapers" on the market now. If I were looking for one, I would purchase several and try them out under your clothing to determine which is least noticeable and most absorbent.

    I would imagine that it is similar to infant diapers... many people will have a preference depending on which worked best for their baby and not everyone will agree. Hence why there are numerous brands available.
  • Sep 20, 2014, 04:48 AM
    Fr_Chuck
    I honestly, in all the 100's of weddings done, never heard of this

    Most weddings, the time in dress, is not that long
  • Sep 20, 2014, 04:51 AM
    joypulv
    Sure, fit and comfort and what shows and all that.
    But what about walking around with a wet diaper on? Speaking as an older woman who hasn't always been able to get to a bathroom in time, even having something like a mini pad or paper towel in my panties, it isn't something I would want to endure at my wedding, just for the sake of a dress.
  • Sep 20, 2014, 05:02 AM
    J_9
    I find the idea humiliating and disgusting. Peeing your pants at your own wedding. I can imagine how sexy the groom would think you are when you excuse yourself to remove a urine soaked diaper on your wedding night.

    If your dress is going to be too cumbersome, find another dress or have your brides maids assist you to the toilet. Imagine how hard it will be to change the diaper should it become saturated.

    A picture of urine trickling down the leg when it's time for the groom to remove the garter comes to mind.
  • Sep 20, 2014, 05:06 AM
    DoulaLC
    I've not heard of it either, but I imagine it's not something the bride would normally share!

    I know infant diapers can be quite absorbent, and you can't always tell if baby has wet, unless they haven't been changed in awhile and have gone more than once. The design is to keep the moisture away from baby's skin.

    I imagine adult diapers would be made to be very absorbent so that you aren't feeling the wetness as well....unless you are going a few times perhaps. I wouldn't think someone would wear one the entire wedding and reception and going in it several times.

    Personally, like J_9 said, I'd find a different dress.
  • Sep 20, 2014, 05:11 AM
    J_9
    I just can't imagine knowing that you are purposely urinating on yourself on one of the most important days of your life. I just can't wrap my head around that.
  • Sep 20, 2014, 06:00 AM
    ScottGem
    Quote:

    If your dress is going to be too cumbersome, find another dress
    I'm with J_9 here. I can't even imagine a dress so cumbersome that you would need one.
  • Sep 20, 2014, 06:39 AM
    Cat1864
    I can understand why a 'diaper' might be advised even if the dress is easy to get in and out of. It sounds like it would be a precaution against accidents instead of actual use. Dress aside, I don't know how far the bathrooms are from where you will be or how accessible. Plan for the worst...

    If that is the case, I suggest using a regular thin maxi-pad for back-up especially if you are worried about leakage due to such things as nerves or sneezes. Plan bathroom breaks into your schedule. (I think many couples think about the ceremony, pictures, reception, etc. and forget about the other details such as bodily functions.) Ask your bridesmaids for assistance.

    Congratulations and good luck.
  • Sep 20, 2014, 06:48 AM
    hailyRcollons
    When I put this out there I had no idea it would bring such a discussion, lol the dress shop gave me a few samples. I have to test this out now to see if its all that bad, lol
  • Sep 20, 2014, 06:55 AM
    J_9
    I can understand dribbles due to laughing, coughing, or sneezing. In that case there are pads that would be appropriate. When I looked up "bridal diapers" I found sites that catered to actual diapers allowing urination because the dress was too cumbersome to allow actual toilet breaks.

    What exactly are you looking for?
  • Sep 20, 2014, 07:00 AM
    DoulaLC
    Trying different sorts out is definitely key. Find what is going to help you be most comfortable whether you are worried about just possible leakage or have a dress that you feel will make it too difficult to use the toilet should the need arise.
  • Sep 20, 2014, 07:14 AM
    smoothy
    All that comes to mind is, good lord, and WHY?

    Doesn't sound like its intended for people with a preexisting incontenance problems.

    I've also never, ever heard of such a thing before today and I'm in my 50's.

    Most brides tend to go for sexy panties....usually white, fancy, intricate, something not for everyday wear, but never heard of diapers.
  • Sep 20, 2014, 08:57 AM
    teacherjenn4
    Oh my goodness! I have never heard of such a thing and I can't believe you would even consider it. If you need help using the restroom, then ask your bridesmaids to hold your dress up while you use the toilet. I don't think your groom will find it appealing at all to find his new bride using a diaper for convenience. I don't even think it should ever be used as an option. If your bridesmaids can't help you, then reconsider your dress choice.
  • Sep 20, 2014, 09:20 AM
    ScottGem
    I don't imagine the groom would ever see it or know about it (unless you tell him and I wouldn't). When I was married, the bride and groom had separate changing rooms where we changed into our wedding garb and then into our traveling clothes.

    The superstition about the groom not seeing the bride in her gown before the wedding has, from what I know, been lost to the technology of photography and videography. At just about every wedding I've been involved in the wedding party does photos before the ceremony. So the bride does need to get into her dress long enough before the ceremony.

    But I still don't quite understand a dress that makes this a necessity.

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