My boyfriend doesn't want to do anything or go anywhere with me but as soon as his friends call, he's out the door without even asking me if I want to go. I get 2 hours every other week that we call "date night" but that involves 2 hours of drinking at a bar he picks. . We spend lunch together but he won't get out of the car.. I can't seem to think that I'm only around for cooking, cleaning and sex, even though he tells me that's not true. I'm frustrated with it and don't know what to do other than leave. Talking about it with him never goes well... help?

I have to ask WHY do you still call him a boyfriend then? How old are you both? Do you live together, have you own place or live with your or his parents?

You pick date night,and you tell him where you and he are going. Consider no sex and no cooking, till he decides you are right

He's a loser and you call him a boyfriend...clearly this isn't working out the way you want it to so why not tell him how it is and if he doesn't want to change or do anything about it, then move on and stop wasting your time with him.

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I'm frustrated with it and don't know what to do other than leave. Talking about it with him never goes well... help?

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You seem to have answered your own question so just do it!

If your objective is to cook and clean and have sex with a husband who ignores you while he goes out with his buddies, and probably has women on the side, stay with him and keep hoping he will change. Otherwise, break up with him and look for someone who enjoys your company and makes you a high priority. This is one of the things that don't change from prodding or nagging. Under threat of losing you he might make an effort for a while, but once he is comfortable again he will go back to his usual. And I bet you pay most of the bills, too, right?

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Originally Posted by LisaMBB

My boyfriend doesn't want to do anything or go anywhere with me but as soon as his friends call, he's out the door without even asking me if I want to go. I get 2 hours every other week that we call "date night" but that involves 2 hours of drinking at a bar he picks. . We spend lunch together but he won't get out of the car.. I can't seem to think that I'm only around for cooking, cleaning and sex, even though he tells me that's not true. I'm frustrated with it and don't know what to do other than leave. Talking about it with him never goes well... help?

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Dump his sorry behind. He likes the idea of having a girlfriend, but doesn't want to put the effort into it. You're just one of the mates, that he doesn't care much for, that he can have fun naked time on occasion. This isn't working for you, and you shouldn't waste your time on it.