Why did my husband change after marriage?
Hey, its Katie again. Thanks for all your comments on my previous question on the issue of stress. But, now I wondering if all the responsibility of a wife and kids are too much for my husband. Before we were married, we had some of the same goals and ideas. I thought he was the perfect man. We have always had a 50/50 relationship. Now, I wonder if this was his plan all along (for me to take care of him and our kids). We dated 7 years and after the 1st year of marriage I started noticing small things like: he began playing video games until 3 or 4am, hanging out with his friends more, not helping out with the house work, and I began doing most of the yard work which were red flags. After, asking him about it, he would always say he is tried because he worked all night and the video games help him to relax. Back then, his work schedule was the same for everyday and he had weekends off. So, I let it go and began picking up more responsibilities at home. Note: we both worked 40 hours each week. I got off at 5:00pm and he got off at 10:00pm. Now, he is working 10 hours a week and I still work 8 until 5. However, I am financially responsible for everything and take of the cooking and cleaning as well. Therefore, I feel that my husband should help out more with the house work. This is a issue we discuss at least once a week. But, somehow, I still end up doing it all. This is not the man I married.