ACKKKK I'm having a meltdown!
Just as I was getting settled into a nice routine here with my new 6 week old baby, my 4 and 6 year old, my husband, and my parents (who are staying here with us until the end of September), and just as my back was starting to get better...
Tonight my sister-in-law, Debbie, who lives in another province, paid us a totally surprise visit with her 3 kids. She's divorced and has been going through some difficulties lately. When she arrived, we all decided to go out for a late dinner, as the kids hadn't been fed yet and we figured it would be less work. Halfway through dinner, Debbie said she felt poorly and that she'd like to go lay down. So, we gave her the spare keys to the house and said we'd meet her there later. When we get home, there is a note from her. "I'm so sorry, but I can't handle the children right now, can you please take them for a while?" We searched the house, but she and her suitcase were both gone. So, she basically dumped her kids with us and left!! :eek: I guess this is officially Brady Bunch Central now, with 6 kids under 10!
I am really really angry about this. First of all, her children are upset and confused... she neglected to mention anything about this to them. Secondly of course, she didn't ask us if the kids could stay here. But now we are feeling sorry for the kids, not to mention feeling obligated to care for them. This isn't their fault, and I don't want them to feel like we resent them.
Debbie's ex-husband is out of the country, and hasn't seen his children for about 2 years. We are trying to contact him but I doubt that will do any good. I have no idea how long "a while" is to my sister-in-law, either. A week? A month? :eek: I feel like I'm going insane!! There's no other place for the children to go, other than their grandparents who live in BC, and there's no way I'm going to put them on a plane right after their mother flies here and basically abandons them. That would be too traumatic.
My husband is training to be a psychiatrist, and my father IS a psychiatrist, so of course they both have their theories about Debbie right now. But I DON'T CARE!! I'm the one who now has 6 little kids to deal with, 3 of which are sad and scared and crying for Mommy. UGH! If Debbie plans on coming back in the next few days she's better steer clear of me!! GRRR! :mad:
Anyway LOL sorry I just had to vent. I'm not sure there's anything anyone can advise us on with this one, I guess we just have to make due until we find Debbie's ex or Debbie re-appears. The stupid thing is of course, if Debbie had come to us honestly, we probably would have agreed to take the kids for a week or two. It's the way she did it that really bothers me.
Sigh, well I guess I'd better get some sleep now... I'm going to need it!! Thanks for letting me vent.