I am a Christian, I take pride in that. But I want to take the time to ask a very serious question and maybe pose a new point.
The Bible definitely encourages couples to have sex "inside" of marriage, but where does it condemn sex "outside" of marriage. I have been hurt by "premarital" sex, so I know where I'm coming from on this, I'm not at all trying to encourage people to just sleep around, but in all seriousness... where does the Bible condemn sex outside of marriage Christians?
Every verse that I've ever been shown doesn't condemn sex outside of marriage, I will agree that it does warn against sexual impurities, but it does not condemn it. Much like the Bible wars against alcohol, it does not actually ever condemn sex outside of marriage.
Just because we've been told something all of our life does not mean it is true. I was tired of being told something with no proof so I went to God in prayer as usual. This is what he told me.
1)God asked me: "Why do you want this?"
To be honest, I wanted to have sex with my girlfriend, I just wanted to know whether God was okay with it.
2)God then asked: "What does the Bible say about this?"
I couldn't find anything that specifically condemned premarital sex, but I could just be an idiot.
3)God asked: "What exactly is it that makes you in my image?"
I couldn't figure this out at first. It took me a little to understand why God had asked me this. The truth is, God made both man and woman in his image but he made man with a penis, and woman with a vagina. So how does that work, does God have both? Then I realized that the unity of a man and a woman in sex is how he "made" us in his image. The very ability to create like our God is what makes us in his image. Made sense.
4)Go then told me: "So what are you worried about? The truth is, everybody who tells you that I condemn premarital sex is lying to you. I don't ever condemn it. I DO warn you to be careful, but I NEVER actually condemn it. Its very much like how I want against alcohol, but I don not condemn it. Make sense? Now let me explain how I made sex. Sex is meant to be a unity between a man and a woman that brings them closer to me. People often see sex as an activity in which people "have sex" as apposed to "make love". Anyone who does not love does not know God because God is love. It is true that most sex today is sinful and full of lust and selfishness. But when you "make love" you are actually bringing me into the scene by "making God", the very phrase says it all. You are calling my presence into that situation. Sex isn't at all about the activity, it is thing that I developed to bring two people closer to me. It is not meant to be done selfishly or with the intent of "gaining" something from the other person. Both man and woman need to know that giving anything less than all of themselves to their partner is going to take away from the moment. Sex is less about "orgasms" and "feelings" and more about worshiping me and getting closer to me. The choice is yours my son."
Now, Christians, if you can find some hard evidence to say otherwise, I'm going to believe what I believe. I'm tired of Christian's trying to guide my life with a bunch of rules and regulations that you can't even back up with the Bible. So tell me, is sex outside of marriage wrong?