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  • Jan 15, 2006, 10:32 AM
    ubab
    Unsupportive boyfriend
    Hi, I am 6 months pregnant and live in vt with my sister and her family. My boyfriend moved to Missouri and is not supportive. I was wondering if he has any legal responsibilities to the pregnancy before the baby is born. I am not employed right now and my sister would like to buy me a cheap car to be able to get to dr and agency appts, and after the baby is born look for a job . The problem is they don't make much and could use the help in paying for insurance and supporting myself. Does he have any financial obligations to these necessities? He said he will help support the baby after it is born like it doesn't need taking care of right now. Please help.
  • Jan 15, 2006, 11:52 AM
    bizygurl
    As long as he is the father, the "right" thing to do is to at least help somewhat in the care of this child before its born, but unless your legally married I don't think he has the obligaton to help you. But then again I don't know all the laws and I don't know what applies to you particular state. I think the law recognizes as the mother as the one that needs to take care of her prenatal care at least that's what I have always known.

    I would try and find out what exactly the laws are in your state either through the internet or call your local state office. Im sure you will be able to find that out. Im sorry to hear that your boyfriend isn't supportive since after all you are carrying his child.
  • Jan 15, 2006, 06:43 PM
    s_cianci
    No, he has no legal obligations to pay for your incidental pregnancy expenses before the child is actually born. His obligations begin the day the child is born and his obligations are only for expenses related directly to the support of the child. The Superior Court for your state of residence will set a weekly amount to be paid according to the guidelines established by your state, taking into account his income (or earning potential if he is presently unemployed or underemployed), your income or earning potential (you've stated that you are currently unemployed, so expect to have some income imputed to you by the judge), other children if any and any other extenuatiing circumstances if applicable.
  • Jan 15, 2006, 07:40 PM
    CaptainForest
    No. He as no legal obligation.

    Consider Abortion. Only the mother has the choice, not the father.

    Until the baby is born, he has no legal obligations.

    And afterwards, he only has to help the child.
  • Jan 15, 2006, 07:57 PM
    lilfyre
    I am so sorry to hear your problem, unfortunately he does not have to legally help you but he is legally responsible for the baby, in child support and such. There are services available to you such asVermont Department for Children and Families, WIC in Vermont, Dr.Dynasaur, and Child Care Resources Handbook. I would also like to point out to you that many churches will help you with food, and some will even help to pay some of your bills or get you into a home, at least it is this way in my home town in NJ. I hope that this is in some way helpful to you. Good Luck, Donna

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