So you mean I'm a new father with no rights?
My ex-girlfriend just gave birth last Thursday to a baby girl which I believe is mine. She is very manupulative, and yesterday told me never to call or come by again.
All through her stay at the hospital, no one, not a single nurse or caregiver would even speak to me - in fact they were more likely to call security (which they did because I got upset, but NOT belligerent). They kept me totally in the dark, and she manipulated the facts of our relationship to keep it that way.
I can't see my little girl - I'm a 40 year old man and nothing has prepared me for the amount of hurt and anguish I'm feeling right now.
She is unfit to be a mother in my opinion, and apparently, in the courts as well. She's been in jail or on probation for over half of the three years I've known her - for domestic violence. She has three other children, yet has custody of only one, mine. She is unemployed and has no desire to hold a job.
I'm apalled that society would, sight unseen, deem her more capable a parent than me just because her damn breasts produce milk. I work a good paying job with full medical benefits, have transportation, have a support network of family and friends, and a place to stay that is legitimately my own - she has none of these things.
I want custody of the child, not for me but for my baby's sake.
What do I have to do... I feel like I'm going to burst from the hurt and pain I'm feeling right now - its clouding my judgement, and I want to make the right decisions.
I live in Virginia. Please help - I could use a bit of help right now.