Hi,

I'm a healthy 30 years old guy. My boyfriend loves to give me a blow job. We usually do it about once a week. Sometimes it feels really really really good (yes, triple "really"), but sometimes it feels like he is doing it to my thumb. :-) No feeling whatsoever. We've been doing it for many years. I've noticed that his techniques haven't changed when I felt really good and not so good. So I figured out it must be me. The interesting thing is that I rarely feel decent. It's either very good or not good. Nine years ago when we first met, his blow job made me feel good every single time (yeah 100%). Nowadays, I only feel good about 70% of the time (7 out of 10). Is it because I'm aging? Or is it something I ate before we do it (we usually do it at night). Or is it because I have too much in my mind?

Please advice. Thank you.

It could be something that is on your mind, so what is on your mind at that time.

As is usually the case in all sexual relationships, the thrill goes away with passing time as familiarity conquers excitement.

It could be the stress, or that you are running through your day. Perhaps you both need more excitement. Different positions, different techniques, more often/less often.

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Originally Posted by letmetellu

It could be something that is on your mind, so what is on your mind at that time.

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What is on my mind at that time? Usually I close my eyes and fantasize things to help me reach the climax...

I meant like reliving the day, thinking about work, relationships, bills, other things other than what you are doing at the moment.

Is it the same feeling when you reciprocate this act?

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Originally Posted by ChihuahuaMomma

I meant like reliving the day, thinking about work, relationships, bills, other things other than what you are doing at the moment.

Is it the same feeling when you reciprocate this act?

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Thanks for your response.

Hmm... My days are usually hectic. Even though I'm 30. I have quite a bit of responsibilities: managing properties and other different kind of investments (equity/commodity/currency), etc. Yes, sometimes my brain tries to find solutions for problems that I encounter during the day. However I never thought about any of it when having sex.

I usually don't enjoy giving b/j. I hardly do it because he prefers doing some other things.

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Originally Posted by pfarrel

What is on my mind at that time? Usually I close my eyes and fantasize things to help me reach the climax...

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Maybe the things that you fantasize about are not the things that will help you enjoy the sex that you are getting at the time, so what are your fantasies? Is it about someone else?

Receiving oral sex can be very difficult. It is the ultimate in letting go and allowing the other person complete control. Has the dynamic in your relationship changed? Do you feel differently about your BF than you did previously?

Also, you may be bringing work stress home with you even if you are not consciously thinking of it. Try other relaxing activities, like a hot shower or bath, or a massage, before the blow job.

Maybe you would like to try something new. Is there a new technique that your BF can bring into the game to shake things up a little? What about adding other forms of sex play, toys, chocolate sauce? Be creative!

Are you gay just to know and meaby you should move a bit when you do it

Hello Lollypopgirl,

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John