My second husband of 32 years and his one disrespectful son and wife.
I have never had any children, but was a design career woman for 30 years at a huge company, holding a top management position. My second husband had 4 sons, all of whom I helped to raise and pay for their educations. They are all married with children, totaling 10 grandkids. The sons range in age from 47-51, and are all financially doing very well for themselves.
One son and his wife have been very disrespectful toward both of us over the many years. We did so many things to be of great help to them and their children, and have done likewise for the other 3 sons and their families as well. It has gotten to the point that I am no longer comfortable around this one disrespectful son and his wife. Their children are spoiled and disrespectful too. My husband is fully aware of how I feel about this one family. He agrees that they have been terribly disrespectful toward both of us for a long time. Every time his sons and their families visit us, (we are retired and live on a lake) I find myself doing all of the work. I shop, I cook everything, I clean, I make beds and unmake beds, I do the laundry, and I feel like a slave. Meanwhile, everyone else is enjoying their visit, going for a boat ride, sunbathing, and treating our home like it is a vacation place or a hotel. My husband just invited this disrespectful son and his family to come for a visit this coming summer without consulting with me first. Apparently my feelings do not count I am thinking. It is so handy to have me be the slave for his family. I am retired and not interested in doing the work any longer, and he knows it. I feel that at my age of 70, someone else should do the work instead of me. But expecting me to entertain this disrespectful family is what bothers me the most. I really feel like leaving home while they are here and let my husband entertain this disrespectful son and his family by himself. He has never had to do a thing on his own, so my not being here might leave him helpless. But really, who should come first in our marriage, me as his spouse, or his sons forever? Where do I fit in regarding my husband? Everyone else in the family show lots of love toward me, and I have no issues with the rest of the family.