My sons father is a loser and I don't want him in our life.
I understand that I'm going to get some very nasty responses but I'm looking for someone who has been in this situation and can give me advice. I have a soon to be 4 yr old son. I'm in a 10 yr marriage and about 4 yrs ago my husband and I both stepped out together with different people. I ended up pregnant. My husband and I are still together but he did not want to be on the birth certificate but has been the only father and a fabulous one for my son. The person I stepped out with was younger and was a lot different then he is now. The biological father found out about his son through a mutual acquaintance 10 months ago and since has demanded to see his son and trying to break up my marriage. Since- the biological father has moved in with his mother, does not work, can't keep a job and deciede to make his body one complete tattoo yes even on his face. He has horrible veiws and in my opinion and many other's is not a productive member of society. His mother is a wonderfu person but basically takes care of him at the age of 30 and most of the time I have to go through her because he can't seem to even hold a conversation with me. I have documented all the times I have let him see his son but I just can't do it anymore. I need this person out of our lives. I have come to understand that he is this way because he is on medicine for Bi-polor and can't take care of himself. Yet he wants to have a say in his son's life and even thinks my son should have a tattoo on his face when he is older. I LOTH THIS PERSON, and the example he is setting for my son. Through DNA testing it has been proven that he is the father but he is not on the birth certificate. My husband and I don't have money for courts but I know that my sons father has his mother pay for an attorney they already have if necessary . What can my husband and I do to get this person out of our lives.