Do you allow your 14yrs old girl hang out with her friends at the mall?
I just don't understand teenage nowadays. My step daughter told my hubby that her friends hang out at the mall every other 2 weeks and she want to hang out with them. She said one of the friends' mom will be there with them. My hubby just dropped her off at the mall. She doesn't want her dad to be there with her. She kept asking my hubby to go movie , to go the mall with her friends without chaperone. My hubby said no, we have to know where she hang out, who's she with and we need to chaperone her. We can't leave her alone at the malls with the other teen kids. She kept asking so he let her hang out with her friends at the mall last time. She and other kids didn't stay inside the mall. They walked to the other building to see movie and walked to another building which is further away from the mall about 10 minute drives. When he found out he was mad because it's too dangerous. So he didn't let her go anymore. My step daughter always complaint that he's overprotective, doesn't let her to hang out with her friends, this and that and give him bad attitudes about that all the time. He had to sit down with her for a big explanation that we care for her. Last birthday, her friend ( the same grl ) came to her birthday and after birthday, she invited my step daughter to go see movie with her and other friends. My hubby didn't want to her to go. She kept asking and gave him a bad attidue in the car and we also had plan. While we drove home, she kept asking so he changed his mind and took her to the movie where her friends at but couldn't meet her friends over there. Previous post which is few days ago, she asked my hubby to come to her friend's birthday and stay overnight at the hotel. He said no and she did gave him a bad attitude. Now today, she told her dad that her friends invite her to hang out at the mall and she wants to go but she doesn't want to have chaperone. He said no, either he or me have to come with her for chaperone. So she used my cellphone to call her friends to ask.. to see if it's okay either her dad or she use the word"step mom"( not using my name )to be there with her all the time, even at the movie. Her friends seem doesn't want to because they want to walk and go somewhere else and didn't want adult to follow. My step daughter said she can't go outside. That's too far, she will get in trouble with my hubby. She only can hang out inside the mall with them. My step daughter ask" so which one can she go with? " so which one can she go with? " or her dad. However they didn't want my hubby to be there with them. So I have to be there with her as chaperone tomorrow. My stepdaughter didn't ask me to see if it's okay that I want to be there with her. This is kind of rude. I really don't like it. I just don't understand why the other parents let their kids hang out at the mall without chaperone, even one adult there. As my perspective, one adult can't take care and watch out for the big group. One bad moment can regret later. As a parent , what's your advices and what should we do because every other weeks , she always comes up something that want to go out with her friends without chaperone.
(note) tomorrow I have to take her to the mall in the afternoon so she can hang out with her friends at the mall and being chaperone. She's my step daughter and she always being rude to me and never appreciate what I have done for her. Honestly, I just don't like her and just don't know how to deal with her.