How to communicate w/ex wife about son
Hello, I am asking this question for my boyfriend & I.
There are many things about how the ex wife raises his & her son that bugs us, from things we could nit pick to things that make us down right uncomfortable. The most recent thing that has pushed us over the edge is her letting him (14years) watch Deadpool. He also watched the Reverant, which is okish minus the one sex scene, but she doesn't screen things. Years ago when we talked to her about a specific movie we didn't feel she should have let him watch, she told us that because they weren't sitting side by side at the theater, she wasn't able to put her hand over his eyes. Like that was a perfectly reasonable excuse.
We have had him back (every other week as per court order from 10 years ago) for a year now, from her having taken him away from us for 3 years simply because she decided she didn't like me or us. No legitimate reason.
Before that happened, one thing she did that bothered us was let him (age 11) and his younger step siblings (one of which is partially not all there) go about a city block's distance from there house, down a hill to play in the creek, unsupervised.
We've talked to her maybe four or five times, and she always has the same sort of answer- either she'll kind of agree, just to get us off her back, or she'll tell us something like 'you raise him your way at your house, & I'll do it my way at my house'
We feel it is important for both houses to be somewhat consistent and she makes it impossible. I honestly would not be surprised if she would allow him to watch pornos in a year or less.
What, if anything, can we do to communicate in a way where we're actually communicating?