I have been ignored by my grown up daughter for nearly a year
I am a divorced parent have been on my own for quite a few years now. My ex left me and my 2 children then aged 7 and 11. I struggled to bring the children up did not get any or much help from the father. Anyway to cut a long story short I lost my son at the tender age of 21 it was a party that went horribly wrong my son ad some heroin turned out to be a bad batch 3 others died same weekend. My daughter was then aged 17 a very traumatic time for her she has never really accepted things, she was bullied a lot a school too, but however she did go to university much to my surprise and got her degree though she did struggle.
Since leaving university she has not done much work had very little confidence because of her past, she has had depression problems for quite a while. She did have a relationship with a fella and ended up living with him for a while, but he was a bad sort I knew from the beginning but you cannot say anything can you, you just hope and pray things will sort themselves out. He took drugs for years, so of course my daughter got involved which really did surpise me after what had happened to her brother. If she wasn't taking it she was inhaling it as he and his friends were always smoking cannabis. This relationship broke up and a year last November with all the past problems and this break up she had a nervous breakdown, I had her staying with me for nearly 3 months as she was in a state, took her to samaritans a few times she was absive to me a lot cried a lot did not smile much but by January she began to come round a bit, I helped her redocorate her flat to try and help her get back to her life as she had to try and move on at some stage. She wore me out both physically and mentally but it was what I tthought I had to do. She decided she wanted to try and go back home at the end of January and I thought she may even be OK she knew I was there for her if she needed me. Then at the beginning of February she just decided one day she did not want me in her life! She sent me an email which virtually blamed me for everything that has happened in her life, I was gutted but life has to go on. She is still out of my life has sent me 3 nasty emails I have now blocked her as canot take anymore, has told me not to contact her in any way shape or form, I was even accused of anonymous phone calls to her I never have. People say it is her illness after the nervous breakdown and also the affects of cannabis in her life for around 3 years but I just don't know anymore, I did send her a xmas card and a verse which I had written for her, not heard anything back. She did not even send her grandfather a card and he was so upset over the holidays he asks me what's going on I don't know wish I did. She has however this week sent him a present and a short note saying sorry but she has been very busy! A pathetic excuse it has made my father feel a little better he has even spoke to her on the phone, but I am totally ignored. I could say a lot more of things that have happened because of all this upset but I am at an utter loss how she can be so cruel after what has happened in the past losing her brother I have nobody now at all, I have friends who are just as gobsmacked as me but what can I do, I don't even know if I could talk to her if I saw her as she has said some awful things. I wish I could just fastforward sometime and be abe to get my life back at the moment I am a wreck.