Do we have to prove the mother unfit?
My husband and I have temp. custody of his 3 y/o son that he had from a relationship, (they were never married), pending the return of the mother in November from Afghanistan. The mother has gone overseas doing contract work for the government, but not in the military. She had a good job before that she left and will come home to not having a job. She signed up for only one year, apparently the money was too good, because now, almost 2 years later; she will be coming home this November. The mother has made little contact with the child, no calls or gifts. During her tour, the mother has come back to the states for visits and has gotten the child after being home a couple of days. Normally, she would send her 'girl friend' to pick up the baby. When she was notified of us filling for custody, she came back to the states for the hearing of the temp custody, and surprisingly, she didn't fight it. However she does plan to fight us getting full custody. Since we have had the baby since he was 19 months old and he is now 3 1/2, do we have to prove her unfit to get full custody? We love this child so much and feel that we have the most stable environment for him. My husband and I are both employed. The child is enrolled in daycare that he loves and has been there since we got him in 2006. After having him in our home for so long, we would just be crushed if he left.