Cannot get sexually aroused. I'm 20 years old and have only been sexually active for a year or so. When I was with my ex at the time when we started having sex I couldn't get aroused and even before I was with him I couldn't get aroused by myself and I still can't. I've tried arousing gels, setting the mood but can't seem to feel sexual. I feel like there is something wrong with me. I don't lubricate or anything.. I feel so insecure and that I can't be with anyone if I can't get aroused because I know sex is a big part of relationships.