All right. So me and my girlfriend got into a discussion about porn and I guess I said to her that I don't watch it, but I do.
She keeps asking me why I do it. She has low self-esteem issues, so I can't just come out and say, 'oh, it's normal. Everyone does it.' or, 'because it's visually stimulating and it gets me in the mood.' because I've tried saying these things and they just complicate things further. I don't know what to say to her to make her understand. Every time I try to explain it, she just says that I'm making it worse and it makes her more upset. I've tried apologizing, and maybe some of you think I shouldn't have to apologize but, from her stand point, I think she's mad that I lied about it saying that I didn't watch it when, in fact, I do. It's an issue of dishonesty.
And don't say, 'well, if you really cared for her, you wouldn't have watched it when she told you not to.' that isn't going to help my situation.
Any help, at all, would be much appreciated.