I have noticed lately that my husband has been a little more focused on me lately when it comes to fooling around. He will play with me but doesn't seem to care that much if I do it back. Do you think he could care less about himself? I would like for him to be a little more selfish.

I wish I had your problem

I wish my wife had your problem. LOL

Our parts are fairly delicate, and when a woman gets excited sometimes she might tend to be a little too rough on the equipment. Often when this happens we won't say anything to avoid hurting the other persons feelings. Ask him, and tell him a little aggression will work.

Enjoy it and if it really bothers you, you might want to actually have a conversation about it with him. Remember that a man loves a woman's body, as long as you don't just lay there everything should be good to go. They love it so much that it turns him on more that anything to just touch you and make you happy, then let it be his turn in the end. That is what it is sounding like to me! Good love, I mean good luck!

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Originally Posted by Stac33

I have noticed lately that my husband has been a little more focused on me lately when it comes to fooling around. He will play with me but doesn't seem to care that much if I do it back. Do you think he could care less about himself? I would like for him to be a little more selfish.

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Maybe he just likes the feeling he gets by making you have pleasure. It is amazing the feeling that a man gets by knowing that he can make a female have that much pleasure.

You say that he will play with you, and I am sure it gets you hot, don't you then have sexual intercourse?

Sorry-what's the problem-you're well off girl-enjoy!

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Originally Posted by Xrayman

Sorry-what's the problem-you're well off girl-enjoy!

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I know it sounds great, but I also want him to get hard and excited. I need to know I am pleasuring him, you know?

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Originally Posted by letmetellu

Maybe he just likes the feeling he gets by making you have pleasure. It is amazing the feeling that a man gets by knowing that he can make a female have that much pleasure.

You say that he will play with you, and I am sure it gets you hot, don't you then have sexual intercourse?

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We usually do have sex, but I want to know he's hot, too. While we're fooling around. I want to reach down and feel his hard c**k.

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Originally Posted by Stac33

I know it sounds great, but I also want him to get hard and excited. I need to know I am pleasuring him, ya know?

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Definitely know what you're talking about.
It's arousing to know you have aroused him. :)
Well why don't you initiate it?

Yes I understand what you are saying-you want him to appear aroused BY YOU. It would arouse and make you feel better-I get that. I was just trying to say that there are peaks and dips in our sex lives and sometimes it is difficult to match state-of-arousal between a man and woman.

Cheers

Stac33... are you 33? Or more importantly, how old is he? Men do go through stages where either their sex drive is very low or they are finding it harder to get stimulated. This may be mental or physical.

They key to any relationship (sexual or not) is communication.


(oh and I just saw your other post about this as well... he may be going through a phase or there may even be dysfunction there. Again, maybe mental but maybe physical. Rather than talking to him about it too much yourself (which, if it is mental, will only make him worry more next time and make matters worse) but have him consult a physician).