I am a divorced Dad of 3 teens (Girl 17, Boy 16, and Girl 13). After the divorce (going on 3yrs) I was amputated from the lives of my children. Despite my best efforts to maintain a parental role in their lives, I am still treated as an outsider and have very little contact with my children. I now face the dilemma of College. My oldest will be going to college next fall and has chosen to attend a 4 year university with tuition of $15,000 a year. I have not been included on any of the planning for her college education and have not been given any of the details. Unfortunately there is no college fund as my ex chose to be a stay at home Mom when the kids were young and it took all of my income to support the family. I am aware that she has applied for grants but was denied and she has applied for scholarships but has yet to hear anything on those. I am still paying a considerable amount of child support and additionally pay half of the kid’s uninsured medical expenses. I would like to help my daughter with college expenses as much as I can, but I am reluctant to take on additional debt in the form of loans. I know if I refuse to do this it will be used to further alienate me from my children, so I am torn as to what to do. I am 46 years old and I live from pay check to pay check as it is, if I take on the responsibility of funding half of my children’s college education it will take me the rest of my life to repay the loans. I feel obligated as a parent to pay for college, but due to the circumstances I do not feel I have the means to do so. I am sure there are many of you who are in the same situation. Can anyone offer any advice or input?