We broke up but still close
Hi I hope someone out there can give me some advice, I was with my ex for 4 yrs and a month ago we decided to break up mutually, I moved out and didn't contact him, we are now back in touch we text and things basically I needed to know why we couldn't try and make things work, he said he didn't want to try. So we still communicate like friends and that's all he wants to be he is nearly 40 and I have been his first long term girlfriend he says he happy and is enjoying his independence again. He got scared of the commitment so now he playing all the golf he can manage not that I ever stopped him doing so. I'm just confused because he says he misses me and feels guilty for hurting me, he always said he wouldn't so I'm haooy that we going out as friends but there is something about me that feels he is the one I told him we could see what happens and he is like I don't want to get your hopes up, he isn't interested in finding anyone else tbh, I don't think anyone would put up with what I did in 4yrs.I did say that going out as friends may just be like we first dated, and he says see what happens! I really have no idea what he wants? I have a friend who I've been playing squash with and he jealous because he's a guy, it's like he wants me but doesn't? It's driving me mad advice needed a.s.a.p
He didn't want relationship but sees me in his future I'm confused?
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I told him how I still have feelings for him and how I would like it in time we could try again, he said he doesn't want to get my hopes up and just see what happens, but for now we both enjoying the no relationship /space idea neither of us are looking for anyone else, so he invited me round for a chat and had a laugh and long talk then he brought up holidays and he said if he won the lotto he would take me on an expensive holiday, I told him that I would be the last person he thinks of if he won the lotto and he replied no you wouldn't. He brought up the past and said things like you always wanted to go there etc.. As I was leaving he said to give him a shout when I was free so we could hang out and watch dvd's one night I played it cool but when I got home I was like OK what was all that about? I am glad we still close but I've gone through my grieving process and I know I just have to be patient and live my life just now, but what is he doing? Is he now missing me? realises he does still have feeling?s or was he just glad I was there for company? I know I can't wait for him forever but I do feel he is the one. I have been through break up's in the past and for some reason with him I can't seem to shut him out of my life.