Does anybody have the same experience.
Hi,
I have been married for 8 months, have known my husband for more than 2 years and we lived together the majority of the time. I have always, right from the start, known that he is a slightly nervous person. We all know: accept or reject... right ?
Anyway, he can be quite compulsive with certain things.
Let me explain...
He can wake up in the middle of the night and ask me where, to give an example, that scented candle is that he gave me 1 year ago...
Needless to say that I don't always know the answer directly or are simply not in the mood to answer this at 3am...
It is getting worst though...
He needs to get out of bed and find that specific object otherwise he cannot sleep.
In the past week I have lost a lot of sleep over this... and I have simply refused to get up and help him look for things... because if I do this, then I am driving myself nuts...
He does not want to get counseling or see a psychologist, but I just don't know how to deal with this... There are days when I am perfectly patient and can let him deal with it, but then I have days where I get very irritated and think: oh, here we go again...
Where it comes from ?
I don't know, I am not a shrink.. But I do know that he always seems to loose things, he panicks instantly and when he finds it 10 minutes later (on a lucky day) he is all calm-ish again.
Does any of you have the same experience... I would like to share, because I am reaching the point that I don't know what to do about this.
I went to see the doctor who gave me a prescription for an anti-depressant for ME... and I thought: this cannot be good, I am not the one with the problem here.. I am getting a problem because of my husband's problem!
All your words of wisdom are more than welcome...
Dutchie