Im new... hoping for some advice
Well, I've been dating a man for a little over 3 months... and I know that is not a long time, but here is my story...
We really liked each other in the beginning... and I still really like him. He seems to have some issues from the past that were effecting our realtionship(that is my version :) ) But then he started to tell me a lot about his life, as well as I. Anytime there was tension or an argument, we would end up telling a lot about ourselves that made more intimacy.
The problem... we had some arguments in this 3 months, and in my opinion, they stemmed from his issues, as well as his busy busy schedule. We didn't see each other much, and as time went on, he put less effort into it. He does have kids, school, work, homework, etc.. So I was very patient and never complained. But the last time we argued we broke up...
I think that our issues stem from lack of time together... I can deal with issues, I just can't handle not moving forward naturally. And so after we broke up, we talked a little bit... and he said he is just too busy for a relationship and has no time, not even for a hello.
I guess my issue is that I don't want to give up on something that is good because of time... I can be patient, back off, but want to still remain in contact because he will have time in a few months... but how do I do that and still respect his thoughts and ideas on his view? I want to problem solve the lack of time issue, like just having one day for us and no other obligation, but I don't know how to do that without contacting him and asking him to change his mind, I would think that would push him away due to pressure But I don't want to let him go over something that is not about "us". I don't want to take a chance that he won't contact me later...
Any advice?