I can't take her out of my head! And I don't know what to do anymore! I'm a guy and I'm I love with my lesbian girlfriend. But the thing is... We did sleep together. She is always flirting me but other times not! She in and out! She drives me crazy! We have a good relationship. And at some point, we where dancing at the dance floor, and she suddenly begins to kiss a girl... that really hurt my feelings when I watched that! But always something in my head says to me that she's not an lesbian but a bi, and that I have some chance with her. I don't have the guts to tell her that I'm in love with her. I don't want to mess up our ''friendship''. What do I need to do? Are there some tip to find out if you loves me to (without asking her) Thanks anyway for reading my story.
A desperate boy.

First of all.. how old are you? And how old is the girl you are talking about?

We are both 20

Maybe the 2 of you need to sit down and talk like adults.I m a lesbian that is married to a man and he knows that I'm not attracted to men at all.But we still have fun together,laugh,and play.If she really is a lesbian she's not going to go to the other side just for you.It's not a switch that we can turn on and off.Just talk to her and tell her how you feel... you may become closer you never know :)

If you don't know without asking, then there are no tips. You have to ask her.
She doesn't have to be bi to like you, love you, want to be around you, live with you, or sleep with you. You may be her solid base and comfort and confidant, or you may be her fun to tease guy, or her brother, or any countless number of things or all put together.
Think about how you will ask her, and stop worrying about what affect it will have.

We did sleep together means we had sex. She didn't just sleep with me. Only to reduce mistakes ;) I loved to be her best friend. I'm VERY happy with that! I will try to talk to her about this when the time is right, when I'm ready for it.

So she is at a point where she may wish to date or even sleep with others, She may not be looking for "love" just friends and fun.

I will agree you need to know what she is looking for.

You may have sex, and lust and love, romance, and friendship, all screwed up.

Ask her what it all means to her, because talking, and listening to each other is what friends are about.

It's was like she said: A best friend thing... suddenly lust.

She was horny.
You were available.
And to her you are safe.

Just sit down and talk to her. You are both only 20. Plenty of life left to live to be hung up on one girl.

I would advise you to say nothing. I am in the same situation, but I know that whenever I become overwhelmed with my feelings and try talking about it with her, it can be a very long time before we see each other again. Also, I have had sex with her and really cherish our friendship. I think the possibilities scare her, and think she prefers to keep things light and airy. I think the woman in the first post is very brave, as I know how excited and flattered I'd be if she'd marry me. I would take care of her and be tender and sympathetic, and even though we may never be together again, that would not be a requirement of our marriage. Ugh, I am so lovesick! I am a gay man by the way, which makes the situation doubly weird. Anyway, I think the reason the obvious signs that hurt us are demonstrated in front of us is because lesbian girls know how we feel and back us off by gently hurting us so that we don't get too involved. That's how I feel, but believe me, you are not alone...

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Hey man just straight up and ask her if she remembers that one time when you ll got intimate with each other, then slowly make your way through the conversation to see if she likes you. There is some ways to tell if she does bro. she could be playing with her hair, playing with something in her hands, brushing her hair back behind her ear or( this is when you can tell
) if she is not doing anything and your having a conversation with her(like just sitting on the couch face to face) and she barley looks at your, keeps looking away, those are some ways of telling if she does. Just bring it up and look for those signs.


Well I'm kind of in the same situation broskiy, I think this lesbian chick is cute but the thing that caught me was when I had just meet her like 3 times in our lives, I asked for her number and she said yes, then later on I ask her to the movies, just as friends, and she straight up said yes, that's when I noticed