So I am in 9th grade and I am dating a 5th grader, and she knows all about everything about having a boyfriend, and she is cute, and has the same type personality and likes that I do, and so is there anything wrong with that? Obviously I know what I cant do and she knows about that too, but like going on dates to movies, ball games and other things, is that OK, or is that weird?

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Originally Posted by Jesusmicheel20

So I am in 9th grade and I am dating a 5th grader, and she knows all about everything about having a boyfriend, and she is cute, and has the same type personality and likes that I do, and so is there anything wrong with that? Obviously I know what I cant do and she knows about that too, but like going on dates to movies, ball games and other things, is that OK, or is that weird?

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What do her parents say? What do your parents say?

A 5th grader is what ? 9, 10 or 11.
No they do not know about dating nor have the emotional ability to understand it.

They have no business dating,

A 9th grader is nothing more than a pedophile in training in my opinion if they can have an interest in a child.

It is highly unlikely that a 10 yr old "knows all about everything about having a boyfriend". What she knows is what the entertainment media portrays about boyfriend/girlfriend relationships. But she has neither the experience nor maturity to handle this herself.

What is probably going on here is someone who see how the media glorifies things and she wants to group up too fast.

At 14 you are just entering the age for one on one dating. Younger than that it might be OK to hang out in groups, but not one on one. And she is years away from that.

Aside from all the excellent advice, could you handle the peer pressure? You will get razzed for robbing the cradle, as you should.
I can't believe that any parent would allow this anyway.

I think it was in 6th grade that an older boy loaned me his shirt at the lake because I was shivering. I had an instant crush on him, but it wasn't even a real crush, as I remember, and I didn't even know him. It was just some vague awareness of what boy-girl romance might be like.

This is not something a child can decide. It's entirely up to her parents, and I would bet that they don't know she has an older boyfriend. What do you think they would say, or do if they did know? I think it's very inappropriate no matter your good intentions.

I bet her parents and yours feel the same way. Her mom and dad will make trouble when you try to date, well they should, for you both.

If it were my 5th grader, I would say absolutely not, and what is it that you think a child that age knows about dating?
If dating is OK with your parents for you to date, fine, but not I bet they would have a fit knowing it's a 5th grader.
What is it you think you have in common with her anyway?

What's wrong with other 9th graders, or even 8th or 10th graders? Give it some thought because THEY actually have something in common with you... 5th graders don't. There is a HUGE maturity difference in those 4 years plain and simple no matter how "mature for their age" they might think they are. They are a child...you are an adolescent.

There was an article in the paper today about an 11 yr old boy who hanged himself because some cyber bullies posted that his 13 yr old girlfriend had died.

If that doesn't tell you that children aren't mature enough to handle the dating thing then nothing else will.

In 2 years, you will be 16+ driving and you are all connected up with a 12 year old. You will be getting into an age where you can get in legal trouble. Rethink this situation. Move on too people your own age + not good to think - your age right now.